What do you tell people?
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|Sun, 04-22-2007 - 3:50pm|
I'm on 3dpIUI using a donor. Just wondering what anyone else does when encountering the dreaded question from people? I know everyone's situation is different, but here's mine, maybe someone can shine some light onto what we should do when I AM in fact pregnant!
My husband had testicular cancer years ago, and is infertile and has been since his operations and such. So, 15 - 20 years ago. Everyone pretty well knows he can't have children biologically. He was married to a "whore" for 9 years and she had an affair and got pregnant. Everyone knows that this child is not my husbands bio child. He stayed with her for 5 years too long, and raised his daughter as his own. (she does not know that she is a result of an affair and she's 13 - there's another topic of discussion!!) Anyway, all our friends and family knows our situation... we also have an adopted son. My question is this, for those who know about DH's condition, what do I say when I'm pregnant? EVeryone who knows him, knows his story and his whore of an X-wife... do I tell them it's a donor, just right off the bat? Or do I just say nothing and say it's his.. and be all "wishfull thinking" What does everyone else do? When some people know a bit of your story, but not all of it? I would just like some feedback at other's experiences, so I know kinda what to expect and what to say when time comes. (Also - DH is VERY senstive about the subject - not surprizing - so I want ot really respect what he thinks also - haven't talked to him about it yet. We are in the 2ww still)
Thanks muchly, appreciate feedback!