So, what is it like?

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So, what is it like?
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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 9:58pm


I wasn't sure where to put this question, but thought that for women who have difficulty seeing BFP news, it wouldn't be right in the Questions & Discussions. Here's my question:

What is it like to be pregnant?

I've never been pregnant, never seen 2 lines on an HPT, never gotten to announce the news. So many of you have fought so hard and gone through such tragic losses and extreme measures to get the BFP or call from the doctor's office. I want to know what it was like for you. I'm working hard on having a positive attitude as I take one cycle off, and one thing I am working on is meditating and visualizing. I've never really pictured myself getting a BFP or being pregnant, so this is new for me. It's something I've avoided because I thought it would make me feel sad, but I want to try it out. And I really want to know, from women who went through so much, what it is like to find out you are pregnant and what your reflections are as you progress through your pregnancies. What surprised you? What is wonderful about it? What is not so fun?

Hoping to be one of you soon!

Andrea

 

 

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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 12:03pm

Hi Andrea,

Well, hmmmm, that is a really tough question to answer! It is amazing, it is terrifying. So this is my fourth BFP each time got less and less "happy" more and more "scary". For me the moment I saw the two lines it was joy but pure worry at the same time (not as much the first time I saw a bfp but after each loss, just more worry). I'd say the excitement part of it got less and less each time after each loss, I was too afraid to let myself be happy for fear that I'd just lose again. I put up a brick wall thinking it would hurt less if I just didn't let myself believe it.

But to answer how it feels as this pregnancy has progressed... it has been an amazing experience. I was a bundle of nerves and didn't really start believing it until around 12 weeks, I had had a lot of spotting and a subchorionic hematoma up until that point. I had a good NT scan and started to breathe a little easier. Then movement started around 17-18 weeks which was joyous. Had some worrisome days where I didn't feel anything here and there but as the movement increased I started feeling better still. After 28 weeks I feel safer still as I know if I went into pre-term labor he would have a very good of survival. Somewhere along the line I came to the realization that, holy cow, I am going to have a baby. I had focused so long on getting and staying pregnant that the end result seemed to never cross my mind.

I am really enjoying it, there are discomforts of course, but I see an u/s pic and know it is all worth it. One thing I didn't expect was how much putting weight would bother me. And people commenting on how "huge" I am. But again, I know it is worth every bit of it.

I hope this wasn't hard to read, I hesitated for a while on responding. Andrea, every day I think of women/couples suffering from infertility and pray that they can be successful and have a child. I hope your time is soon!

Kelly






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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 1:24pm

Andrea, I think trying out meditating and visualizing is a great thing!


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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 2:20pm

Andrea,


I pretty much agree with Kelly's sentiments. It is wonderful & scary at the same time. I had a large subchorionic bleed (like Kelly) but mine came right before my 1st beta

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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 10:14pm

This is a tough and interesting question, Andrea.

Isabel
Mom to Sebastian Robert after 3+ years of infertility

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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 10:43pm


All of your stories are so wonderful, and inspirational to me. I have up to this point avoided talking much to women about their pregnancies, on the boards or in real life, but curiosity is getting the best of me. Although I know women who get pg easily feel blessed and happy with their pregnancies, I think it must be so different for women who go through such a long journey. When I first started to TTC, I assumed I would get pg, so I didn't think much about how amazing it would be to realize I was going to have my own baby. Now, I realize that conception is a true miracle and I want to start picturing that for myself.

Thank you all so much for sharing. You all deserve happy, healthy pregnancies and delightful babies and I appreciate so much that you gave me things to think about and hopes to dream about. I think if I make it to the other side of this TTC journey, I will join the ranks of women like you who fully and deeply understand the blessing that a baby is.

Andrea

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