Thoughts on "push" presents

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Thoughts on "push" presents
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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 9:21am

Hi all,

I was on a baby center community board and someone posted a topic about push presents. It started a huge debate, which EVERYTHING does on that board anyway! I am not trying to start one here, I much prefer the camaraderie on this board, I was just curious of everyone's thoughts on "push presents".

I personally never heard of them until I moved south but it seems pretty standard here. In case you're not familiar like I was, it is a gift that is given to the wife after the child is born, an appreciation for going through pregnancy, child birth and I suppose giving the gift of a child to her DH/SO. Most of my friends have received some kind of jewelry. Nothing extravagant (well except for one friend but THAT is a whole different story LOL).

When I first heard of them I thought it was kind of crazy, isn't the child the present you get? Especially as I was struggling to have a successful pregnancy, I thought it was nuts to expect something after already being given such a miracle. I still feel like I have been given an amazing miracle with this pregnancy but part of me really wouldn't mind if DH wanted to give me a little something! Emphasis on "little", we have so many house projects going on and things to buy for the house and baby that I don't want to go crazy but it would be nice to have a token of his appreciation. Even if it's just flowers.

I feel like I sound selfish and I feel guilty for that. I am not going to drop hints to DH and just be happy with whatever happens. I'm sure it will be the last thing on my mind after I give birth.

What are your thoughts on push presents?

Kelly






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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 12:01pm

Kelly,


I live in an area where giving a push present is not done. I have heard of it because I have friends that live in different parts of the country. Most of them received jewelry or flowers. One of my friends got a gift certicate for a spa treatment.


I really think the idea of it is very nice. A small token of appreciation for carrying & nuturing your LO for 9 months:)


Don't feel guilty or selfish, everyone likes to feel appreciated:)


Nat


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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 2:00pm

I have never heard of a "Push Present"! I have heard of women/couples receiving flower or balloons of congratulations, but never anything as extravagant as a piece of jewelery, and certainly nothing from DH!


I think it's interesting...do they give "impregnating presents" to the DH/SO as well? LOL, just a thought.


I guess you could say that I'm going to get one from DH...kinda...I told him that for Christmas this year, I want a mother's ring. We've already started doing research on what I want, and I don't doubt he'll get it for me...but does it count if you ask for it?


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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 2:34pm
Thanks Nat, that makes me feel better!
Kelly






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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 2:37pm

That's funny you bring that up about "impregnating" presents, some women on the other board were saying they thought their DH's deserved a present for putting up with them through the 9 months, mood swings and all!

I've never heard of a mother's ring, tell me about it, does it have the LO's birthstone or something?

Kelly






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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 3:42pm

My DH deserves a gift for putting up with me & my mood swings for sure:)


Nat

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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 8:00pm
I remember seeing a lot of press about the "push present" concept a few years back, particularly with wealthier women.

Isabel
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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 8:25pm
Yeah, the Mother's Ring is just that-- has birthstones of the LO. I've been doing research and have found some that are even engraved with names & birthdates...I don't think I'm gonna have that added....I'm thinking I'm going to get something with my birthstone (diamond) as the center stone and two side stones
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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 8:30pm

I live in the south (not that far into it but down there a bit) and have not heard of a push present. However I DID hear it mentioned on "Bethanny Getting Married?" A show on Bravo that my DH hates that I watch. He got her a present and they are from NYC and I thought it was very weird.


It is a nice idea but I am too practical. I would tell my DH to save the money for diapers or something else that we would need for the LO.

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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 8:41pm

First of all, Kelly, I'm SO GLAD everything is stil going well for you!

After struggling with infertility, we welcomed our son Noah on March 18, 2010! Formerly a teacher, I am now a breastfeeding, babywearing, stay at home Mom, and I couldn't love it any more!
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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 9:44am
Very well put, a push gift symbolizes the birth of your child which will always have special meaning! That was sweet of Justin to do, even if he dropped the ball on mother's day.
Kelly






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