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|Tue, 03-03-2009 - 10:38pm|
I had this revalation and wanted to share:
I was talking to one of my GFs the other day. She was telling me about how one of her friends has been TTC and she is devastated that it didn't happen the first month. I kinda of blew it off like wait till she gets to 1 year or 2 years come and talk to me. I was talking to Doug and he was like wait don't you remember how you felt. Well I had diner w/ my GF, her DH, GF's friend, her DH, and another couple. I told my GF that I wasn't sure if I wanted to come that night because in a previous conversation I was worried about having baby talk. This was shortly after we had made the DE decision and I wasn't 100% comfortable with it. By the night of the dinner I was very comfortable and very willing to talk. The other couple who knew about my IF and treatment asked me how things were going. I was telling her how we have gotten to the point where insurance doesn't pay for anything. Then all of a sudden my GF changes the subject and I orginally thought it was for me that she was changing the subject. I come to find out later that her GF's DH asked her to change the subject because she has been crying about it and is very frustrated. She has no one to talk to. It made me remember.
That was me, I was devastated that it didn't happen the first month, second month, etc. How could I be so insensitive? My GFs friend is now at 4 months of TTC and she is very frustrated and apparently was balling to my friend. How could I forget how I felt those first few months? So, yesterday I had to tell Doug something I don't normally like to to tell him, "You are right!" This experience has taught me so much and I need to be sensitive to all the women who are struggling TTC. Most of us don't know that it could take more then one month. I need remember how I felt that first year and be supportive to the women around me who are struggling whether it is just 3 months to 10 years. I think we need to remember how we feel during this time so when someone close to us needs our support and understanding we can be there to support them.
I used to get so upset when people would tell me don't worry it will happen, just relax. Oh you have only been trying a few months don't worry. Or the OB who told me I got this couple pregnant in one month. Those things hurt me...I don't want to hurt anyone, I want to help. Thank you Doug for helping me remember my purpose in this struggle.
TTC TTC #1 since June 2006, Me 28 & DH 29, IVF #1 ICSI and AH ~ BFN, IVF #2 Jan ICSI and AH ~ BFN, Next Step DE and mock cycle, DX ~ DOR not POF, TTC w/ the assitance of Traditional Chinese Medicine "To get through the hardest Journey we need to take only one step at a time, but we must keep on stepping." ~Chinese Proverb
Starting Lupron 1/9
Start Stims 1/11
1/14 First u/s saw 5 follicles!!!
1/16 Second u/s 7 follicles and 4 measurable!!!
1/18 Thrid u/s 8 follicles 6 measurable 3-11s, 14, 15, and 18
1/20 Triggered @12:45
1/22 ER @ 12:45 6 eggs retrieved 1 fertilized
ET 1/25 surprise at ET 2 embies growing 2 4-cells transfered
Turtle & Rabbit are snuggling in :o)
Moving onto DE Mock cycle as soon as AF comes
Mock done and I responded great (I have a beautiful uterus)