Another friend is pregnant!

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Registered: 08-03-2008
Another friend is pregnant!
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Mon, 12-29-2008 - 6:36pm

I don't know what I would do with out a support group like this in times like I had today.  I "reunited" with a friend of mine who used to be very close and then we drifted apart.  She was in town and we got together after about 10-12 years apart...only to hear she is 3 months pregnant.....and it happened on their first month trying!  UGGGGHHHH!!!!  Just in the past three months, 3 of my friends (the only 3 left without children) have all announced their expecting.  And, of course, I am thrilled for them.....I truely am....but then I find myself crying when I am alone.  The worst part is after they have all told me they were pregnant, and I congratulate them, they ask that dreaded question... you know the one.... "What about you?  When you are going to be ready?" I scream inside and all I can let out is, "We're trying.  For some people, it doesn't happen as fast as it did for you."  Then I get the-head tilt to the side- "Ahhh, you will totally get pregnant soon...I just know you will!" reply.  It's like pouring salt on an open wound. 


Here I am---temping every morning, getting pricked by needles, discussing my DH's S/A, preparing for an HSG this week, adding words like Provera and Clomid to my vocabulary and my friends wink at me and say I'll get pregnant....if they only knew!


I feel like there is something wrong with me and there is no one (in person) I can turn to that truly understands what I am going through.  That is why this board is priceless.... you guys get it....when you say, "I know what you are going through." It's not just lip service.  And, even though I feel so alone in my own little world, I come on here and feel comforted.  Thank you for that and thank you for letting me vent. 


 ~Lori

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Registered: 09-11-2008
Mon, 12-29-2008 - 6:45pm
( ( ( ( H U G S ) ) ) ) I swear this post could have been written by me. I'm sorry that you have not gotten your BFP. Every day it breaks my heart that all of us have to be on this board, but there is nowhere I would rather be while TTC. Just as we are here for you, you are here for us when we have bad days. Vent away, honey!!!!
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Registered: 08-03-2008
Mon, 12-29-2008 - 8:08pm

You make me smile just by reading that you could have written the same post.

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Registered: 11-07-2008
Mon, 12-29-2008 - 9:10pm

****HUGS**** Lori.


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Registered: 06-28-2008
Mon, 12-29-2008 - 10:39pm

(((HUGS))) Lori.

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Registered: 10-31-2008
Tue, 12-30-2008 - 8:06am

Oh sweet Lori,


((HUGS)).

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Registered: 01-31-2008
Tue, 12-30-2008 - 10:27am

It's so hard to hear of person after person who are lucky enough to get pregnant on their first month trying. They truly do not understand. I had one friend ask me if I was doing it on the right day. Uh... yes... sometimes there needs to be a little more to it than that.

And then, I can't stand their comments of how it will happen for us. They just say those things to make themselves feel better, not to make us feel better.

Kelly


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Registered: 06-22-2008
Tue, 12-30-2008 - 11:56am

*hugs* Lori.


It truly sucks that people are so insensitive. For me it's basically the opposite situation because DH and I are much more mature and stable than most of our friends (only ones married, only ones with a house , only ones with careers instead of part time jobs, only ones finished with college, etc.). Everyone keeps asking when we're going to have kids. After my mc a few weeks ago one of my friends actually said, "Well you better just hurry up and have another because I want a kid to play with!!!" Can you believe that?!?!?! Sure, no problem, I'll pop out a kid right now just because you want one to play with!!! Seriously!? UGH!


Anyway, sorry to bust in on your vent. I just want to let you know that we all feel the incredible anger towards our friends' insensitivities.

Erin & Ryan Sig
Erin & Ryan Sig
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Registered: 08-03-2008
Tue, 12-30-2008 - 12:26pm

Thank you all for coming on here and sharing your vents/stories about pregnant friends and annoying questions about when you are going to have a baby.

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Registered: 07-10-2008
Tue, 12-30-2008 - 12:36pm

Lori,


This is why I visit the boards regularly, even though my DH and I are currently taking a break.

- Misty, 34 DH 33  TTC since April 2006 with PCOS.  6 failed Clomid/IUI cycles in 2008. Six month break, six months of&n
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Registered: 09-28-2006
Tue, 12-30-2008 - 1:00pm

Lori,


Huggs, I get it! Our friends and family can suck big time, and they might not even know it! Thats why lately I’ve been telling people. Especially the people that think its ok to point out that I am getting older, (Im 36) and push the subject.

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