Another PG Friend *sigh*

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Another PG Friend *sigh*
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Fri, 03-27-2009 - 2:33pm

Of course I'm happy for her, I really am, it's just that it's another friend who is pregnant. And why why why have both times I've been pregnant and lost it has someone had to have the exact same friggin EDD as me? The last time they even named their little girl the same name I picked for my angel. (not that they knew the name I picked or anything, just a coincidence).

Now every time I hear her say "I'm xx weeks pregnant" I will automatically think to myself that I should be that far along right now.

Don't get me wrong, I wish her nothing but a healthy pregnancy just as I would anyone here. It's just the darn EDD thing again. Ugh.

 


Kelly


  ttc#1, got bfp in April '08, missed miscarriage, 1st d&c June 6, 2nd d& for retained placenta accreta ;c Aug 1, hysteroscopy on Aug 20 punctured uterus & procedure stopped so placenta still attached, methotrexate on Aug 26th.  did the trick & placenta gone; Diagnosed with Asherman's Syndrome (uterine walls adhered together with scar tissue) on September 19th.  Hysteroscopy on December 18th, hoping that all scar tissue & adhesions are removed and I have a nice new uterus!   Second bfp on Feb 11, 2009.  Betas looked good but ultrasound showed no development.  M/C on March 13th at 8 weeks.  Waiting for betas to drop and start ttc again. 



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Fri, 03-27-2009 - 2:42pm

Kelly,


I am so sorry. How unfair and cruel. While I haven't been through nearly as much as you have, I understand the balance of feeling so completely horrible for ourselves but truly not wishing anything bad on the others who have babies so easily. I hope you don't feel guilty about it, it is a natural feeling. Better to let it out rather than hold it in. (((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))

 

Angela

Me 32, C 34. Toge

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Fri, 03-27-2009 - 2:49pm
Thanks Angela, I was kind of feeling guilty about writing this. But you helped me realize it's a natural way to feel.

Kelly


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Fri, 03-27-2009 - 4:11pm

kelly,

(((hugs))) of course it's so hard, even if you're happy for her. i was just thinking yesterday about a friend of mine. at her wedding, i was in my 1st ivf cycle. well, her son was born last fall. i mean, come on! there are tons of stories like this in my family. lots of cousins on both sides that got married in the past 1-2yrs (dh and i have been married for 6 1/2 yrs) that already have kids. totally unfair. i really hope that one day soon you get your little bean that sticks all the way! we miss you in the pg support grp!

ana


TTC since Sept '06. Diagnosed w/ PCOS, DH diagnosed with azoospermia Dec '06, TESA Mar '07. IVF/ICSI/AZH#1 Aug'07, BFN (6 usable eggs, 5 embies, 2 transferred, 1st beta=18, 2nd beta=12, 0 made it to blast to freeze). IVF/ICSI#2:retrieval Nov'07 (w/ fresh TESA), FET sched Jan'08, no embryos to transfer (23 usable eggs, 12 embies, 0 made it to transfer). IVF/ICSI#3: retrieval Mar'08, FET May'08, BFN (13 usable eggs, 7 fertilized w/ DH sperm= 0 blasts, 6 fertlized w/ DS=3 blasts, all 3 transferred, 1st beta=74, 2nd beta=64, 3rd beta=42). 1st cycle IUI/clomid/donor sperm postponed due to lack of follicular growth on 100mg clomidx5days.

ana

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Fri, 03-27-2009 - 4:49pm
I feel the same way about not wishing harm to anyone but still being sad for me. I have people in my life who are able to conceive without wanting a child and I think I want a child, my DH and I both want to raise a family why can't we have children when so many people around us can. I think it is normal and healthy to express. Thanks for making it easier for the rest of us to express our thoughts too.

Kristelle

 

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Fri, 03-27-2009 - 9:06pm
(((HUGS))) Kelly that is soo frustrating but I understand.
  

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Sat, 03-28-2009 - 12:59am

Kelly,


Its normal for sure. I didnt feel that way a few pregnancies ago and now I do. It feels like a slap when I find out yet another friend is pregnant. I cant help it. Ive been trying longer than a friend of mine has known her husband and now she is pregnant. Another friend had her baby

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Sat, 03-28-2009 - 10:03am

Kelly-

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Sat, 03-28-2009 - 3:17pm
You're so right Cynthia! I couldn't share these feelings with anyone else. You guys here just get it. I agree about the baby showers too. I just can't handle any more of them.

Kelly


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Sat, 03-28-2009 - 4:54pm

Hi Kelly,


It's natural to feel that way esp when these people keep having your due dates and then even used the same name. I'm sorry you have to have reminders so close to home but your time and baby are coming. Keep beleiving. Hugs!! :)


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Sat, 03-28-2009 - 9:52pm

Oh Kelly, that's completely understandable to feel the way you do.


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