bad timing & face rubbing? or just PMS?

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Registered: 01-07-2008
bad timing & face rubbing? or just PMS?
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Thu, 07-10-2008 - 9:57am

Ok here is my vent for the day.  My youngest BIL and wife are expecting any day now.  And I am excited to become an auntie again.  BUT.  This BIL is just getting to me when it comes to this baby they are expecting.  Aside from it being the only topic they want to talk about when we talk (DH has stopped calling this BIL just because he doesn't want to hear it) 


First they announce the pg to us on christmas day.  So it is already hard enough to celbrate christmas without children (We do spoil our neices and nephew), but then to hear someone is preggers on that day.  I was a little bitter.  At least DH and I were home alone and we could react the way we wanted to and not have to put ona fake smile.   


Then the baby shower comes and DH side offered a simple out for lunch shower for the immediate family. Nothing big or fancy jus tthe MIL and SIL.  No she demands we go to the shower her side of the family throws. (8 hour drive for me verses the 4 that would have been).  Thank god I was leaving on travel that Monday and could use it as an excuss not to go. 


Now she invites me to this tottimes website and to get updates of every picture they will put on it or blog about it.  So I went to see what she had.  The US pics.  great!  Then pics of the happy preggers couple done by a professional and way more intimate than I would ever post.  Like she is wrapped in a sheet (naked of course) with the belly showing and rose petals around her.  I do'nt want to see that.  Even if I wasn't dealing with IF. So I declined the updates and will go there when I fell like it.  I know they are excited, but it really seems like bad timing, selfishness, and face rubbing. 


And maybe I am PMSing becaus AF is expected on Monday, but still...


Which leads me to another thought.  I am debating doing a HPT tomorrow.  I am with Susan in not waisting $ not POAS especially since I have never seen a BFP.  But Af should show on Monday,  and I am leaving sunday for CA.  I would like to know if I can sample the great wines when out with friends on Sunday night or not.  I woke up this morning with cyst like cramps again, they were pretty intense although they didn't last but 10 mins, makes me think I will be expecting a BFN.  Whats new. 


Thanks for reading.  Now I can get on with my day.

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Me and DH are 33yo.  Been together since March 1994, Married in September 4, 1999.  TTC since February 2002.  DX:  Graves Disease->hypothyroidism and ovarian cysts (not PCOS).  DH DX:  can seed an army. Currently:  Month 2 on Letrazole and HCG.

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Thu, 07-10-2008 - 10:22am

Wow this makes me thankful for my sister.

  

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Registered: 01-07-2008
Thu, 07-10-2008 - 12:19pm
I am thinking I will POAS.

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Thu, 07-10-2008 - 12:26pm

Work that sounds like fun. Are you going to be working on your wine tasting skills.

  

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Registered: 01-07-2008
Thu, 07-10-2008 - 1:18pm
I figured that if AF is coming anyway and I will be in CA good excuss to break the rules.

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Registered: 03-11-2008
Thu, 07-10-2008 - 7:09pm

Yes, I would POAS. I also miss eating soft cheese and hot dogs during the 2ww.


Enjoy the wine trip! I totally know what you mean about rubbing it in your face - I have a friend who had two years of IF and did IVF to have her baby so she of all people should be more sensitive to my plight but no, every day she sends pixes of the baby to my e-mail. Then she organized a get-together for our mutual Mommy friends and their babies and I just wrote her an e-mail to tell her to count me out, it's just too hard right now. If she hates me for telling her this then it's too darn bad. We have to take care of ourselves and our feelings. It's bad enough that anytime you go to the market of the drug store you see celebrity magazines screaming "PREGNANT" in big bold letters - if I have to

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Registered: 01-07-2008
Fri, 07-11-2008 - 8:20am

Good for you Caren.

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Registered: 01-07-2008
Fri, 07-11-2008 - 8:22am

To add to my rant that started this post.