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Registered: 01-13-2010
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 7:52am

So today is my 2 week point. I took a HPT this morning and got a BFN, but still don't have my period. I fear that I have had a early miscarriage. This past weekend I had the same pain in my abdomen that I did when I had my miscarriages last year.

I just don't  understand this cycle was great. I don't feel like trying any more, I am sick and tired of being disappointed. IF is so unfair!! I just wish I had a diagnosis, so I could say to myself: this is why I am not getting pregnant, but I cannot. And to top it off I answer phones for a pedi office, and hear about babies all day. I was feeling bad and wanted to call out, but couldn't because I work the early shift this month and I am the first one here.

 I feel like I am disappointing my side of the family and DH side of the family. I feel like I am disappointing DH by not giving him the family he wants. He does not do or say anything to make me feel this way. He IS so supportive. I have no idea why I feel like that. 

Thanks for listening and sorry for all of the complaining!


TTC since August 2008. Unknown infertility

IUI #1 September 2009 , BFP with twins in October, miscarriage at 8weeks 1 day and 8 weeks 3 days

IUI#2 February 2010, no luck there.

IUI#3 March 2010

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Registered: 01-23-2006
In reply to: carriebell2010
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 10:13am


I am so sorry that you are feeling so sad today. Are you sure of your O date?

The reason I ask is

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Registered: 07-30-2009
In reply to: carriebell2010
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 10:59am

I'm so sorry Carrie!

You are not disappointing anyone, please don't feel that way. Your family loves you and cares for you and does not think any less of you. Many many hugs!



I'm 38, DH is 42 and we are TTC #1. We've had 3 unexplained miscarriages and a bout with Asherman's Syndrome but we're determined.

BFP #4! - 1/
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Registered: 11-07-2008
In reply to: carriebell2010
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 12:23pm

I'm sorry Carrie. And you're not complaining, IF isn't fair and it's difficult to go through all of these disappointments. Big ((Hugs))

Me (30), DH (30)


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Registered: 01-13-2010
In reply to: carriebell2010
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 1:41pm

So I called my RE to tell her about the BFN and had to leave a message. The nurse just called me back and told me to retest tomorrow or Thursday, and if I still get a BFN and no period to call them on Thursday. So I guess I have to wait until Thursday.

I am scared to get hopeful, only to be disappointed.

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Registered: 11-10-2008
In reply to: carriebell2010
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 1:56pm

Carrie, I'm crossing everything for you!




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Registered: 08-20-2009
In reply to: carriebell2010
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 2:44pm

Carrie, I've got my fingers crossed that it was just too early for a BFP.

Lilypie Maternity tickers

May Baby

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Registered: 01-03-2010
In reply to: carriebell2010
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 4:46pm

I'm sorry you're stuck in the waiting game right now.

~ Meron born 12-09-11 after 3 1/2 years of TTC, IUIs and IVF.
~ #2 on the way(!) and due 06-06-13.

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In reply to: carriebell2010
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 5:25pm

I am so sorry to hear this!