Embryos didn't survive the thaw!

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Embryos didn't survive the thaw!
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 12:43pm

We thawed our last 2 embryos for a transfer- should have been done last Thursday...the lab called Wed afternoon and stated that they didn't make it. Get off everything I am on, stop the shots and she's sorry, take these pills and call the doc when we get another period!  URGHHH!!

I don't know what to do anymore!  We have a miracle child (totally unexpected, married but wasn't thought about) who is 9 (boy), and than did 3 IUI's and got nothing so we switched to IVF and got prego the first time.  We had fraternal twin boys (3 years old next week).  We did FET (1 embryo) and got nothing.  Did FET again (2 embryos) and had a miscarriage.  NOW...Our last 2 embryos didn't survive the thaw....now what?  Everyone keeps saying, "Be happy with what you have, some people can't have one"!  Easier said than done!  My parents had always told me growing up, "reach for the moon and you'll touch the stars".  I have a great occupation, amazing husband and boys.  BUT my DREAM was 5 children (which sex doesn't mattter)!  This kills!  My hubby says we are done.  He doesn't want to keep throwing money at nothing and would rather use that $15,000 to take the kids on a trip, pay off a vehicle, whatever.  I totally understand his point but am not ready to part with the baby stuff yet.  I am not ready to squash my dream and feel like a failure!  I know I will shed many, many tears pricing all of the adorable baby clothes and toddler clothes I have saved from my 3 boys!  Hubby wants to sell their toddler beds and put the twins in one queen bed.  He says that it's not that he doesn't want more kids, he just wants to be able to move on and do big things as a family. 

Thank you for letting me vent!! 

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 1:06pm

(((HUGS))) I'm so, so sorry.

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Registered: 07-30-2009
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 1:19pm
Sorry! I hope you and your husband can come to an agreement.



I'm 38, DH is 42 and we are TTC #1. We've had 3 unexplained miscarriages and a bout with Asherman's Syndrome but we're determined.

BFP #4! - 1/
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Registered: 11-07-2008
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 1:59pm

Lots of ~Hugs~ I'm sorry.


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Registered: 08-14-2008
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 4:49pm

(((((HUGS)))))..Sorry you and dh are having different points of view and hope it all works out in the end...


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Registered: 01-23-2006
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 5:00pm

I am so sorry that you are going thru this:(

I hope you & your dh can come to an agreement that will make both of you happy.



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Registered: 11-30-2005
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 9:32pm
So sorry for your losses.
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Registered: 09-06-2004
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 10:13pm
I am sorry to hear about what you have been going through - I wish this could be easier for all of us.
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Registered: 01-07-2008
Tue, 10-06-2009 - 1:24pm

I am so sorry to hear of your lose.