Feeling guilty

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Registered: 03-17-2008
Feeling guilty
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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 10:11am

okay girls... I am feeling a little bit guilty!  Since our first (and to date only) IUI was unsuccessful, I have been slacking off in the whole "do what is best to conceive a baby" thing.  We went on a three week vacation and we were really hoping that we would get preggers on our own. 


Since that did not happen I have not been exercising regularly, I haven't exactly been eating the most ideal diet and now I am wondering how important is this whole baby thing to me??? 


I mean, DH and I are very happy with it just being the two of us.  I would love and feel very blessed if God gave us a child but our lives are really full and busy.  We have been able to go on vacations, remodel our kitchen and bathroom and purchase things that we otherwise would not be able to if we had a baby...  do I really even want a child if it is going to be such a big ordeal??? (IUI's, Clomid, injections, etc??).


Maybe resolving to have a childless family isn't such a bad thing after all??? I just turned 37 on 10/13 and our chances of conceiving are getting lower and lower.  IVF is not an option due to cost~  so once we have exhausted our IUI chances we are done with the RE.


I feel guilty because I feel like I am giving up...  


 

        


 

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Registered: 08-12-2007
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 11:14am

Melinda,


I can completely relate!

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 11:16am

Melinda, you are not giving up!!!

  

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Registered: 06-16-2008
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 12:54pm

(((HUGS)))


Please don't feel guilty for thinking about the possibility of not having children and positives that may come along with that.

 

Angela

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Registered: 06-28-2008
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 1:03pm

If what you are doing feels right, then don't sweat it.

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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 3:47pm
No reason to feel guilty! DH and I have reached the same conclusion. We discussed it with my doctor and realized that we are happy and we are just going to see what happens. Sometimes I feel so weird for not wanting to go through meds and whatnot, but I just don't feel comfortable risking my mental health, I have enough issues on my own, lol.
GL with whatever happens!

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Registered: 03-17-2008
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 9:35am

Okay, so I guess this is maybe normal? As I amy have mentioned before, DH will try IUI a few more times in January and I suppose we will have to cross that bridge when we get to it.


Thanks ladies!

        

 
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Registered: 10-27-2007
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 11:29am

You aren't giving up. I think you're just trying to prepare yourself for a life without children and coming to terms with that.

Karen S


Samantha Kelly ~i~ 7/31/07


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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 2:44pm
Karen, how is your IVF going?

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Registered: 10-27-2007
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 3:42pm

I had my ET yesterday. They retrieved 12, 9 were mature, 7 fertilized.

Karen S


Samantha Kelly ~i~ 7/31/07


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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 3:47pm

Karen that is awesome!!! I really hope this works for you this time.

  

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