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|Wed, 04-21-2010 - 7:41pm|
So I just learned today that my sister in law is pregnant.
Now of course that holds the sadness that she is expecting and I cannot conceive yet, but it goes SO much deeper then that. My sister in law (although older then me) acts as if she is 15. She has no sense of responsibility, no steady job, basically no income, lives rent free in a house owned my other sister in laws boyfriend and is on federal assistance. She has been dating this man since her mother passed away and everyone in the family (my DH included) believes she is just dating him so she will not be alone. He is not good for her, leaves her home alone all the time and goes out spending money they don't have and there is just something about him no one trusts.
Well she is afraid he is going to leave her so she decided to just randomly stop taking her BC and try to get pregnant. My DH told me her plan was to get pregnant so that this awful boyfriend will be forced to stay. And now she is! For all the wrong reasons!! She is going to bring a baby into this very VERY unstable situation just so that her boyfriend will stick around. Aside from the fact that I have to watch her be pregnant she is going to start asking for hand outs. And my DH is going to feel obligated to give it to her because she is pregnant. While fortunately enough we are financially in a better position than his sister we do not have enough money to support her and a baby and that ridiculous boyfriend.
It makes me so frustrated and upset that someone like her magically after only a few months (I think 3 all together) can get pregnant and here me and my DH are doing everything right (or trying to) and cannot get pregnant. I know this is true for all of you wonderful women but I am just having a really hard time coping with this particular news. No one in his family knows about the IF issues we are having (and no one in that family EVER will) and so it makes it even worse.
Bleh thank you guys for letting me vent a little. I am just so upset about this news but I hate to talk to my DH about it since it is his family in the end and he does love them. No matter how crazy they are.
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