Hurt and jealous and alone.

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Hurt and jealous and alone.
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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 9:00am

Hi all,

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Sun, 12-25-2011 - 10:59pm

I totally know how you feel.

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Thu, 12-22-2011 - 7:28pm
Sandra,
I want to give you a huge giant hug and say that you are very much not alone. Actually your post could have been mine. My DH got the all clear and it was me not ovulating, at all.
My sister actually got pregnant accidentally and she was not at all in a 'responsible' place. My DH and I each had a job, a car, we owned our own home, we have money in savings. So why could she get pregnant and not us? It hurt so bad.
I never told people about my IF. I did not feel comfortable talking about it and felt like somehow it made me less of a woman. I certainly did not want the awkward pity which somehow felt worse.

I agree that it seems that there is no other people around us suffering through IF. I think because most do keep it quiet. I have to say though this board was such a blessing to me. The women here made me feel not alone because so much of what they said I felt too. I cannot say how blessed I feel to have found these ladies and I hope that I can pay it forward as much as they have for me.
Coming here to vent is in my opinion one of the best things you can do. IF takes so much from us having a place to unload is a huge deal.

I wish you much luck and I feel confident you will indeed get your miracle soon. Much luck and baby dust to you.

Dixie

"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella

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Wed, 12-21-2011 - 7:17pm

Yeah, I'm sorry to hear that.

***TTC since 2005. *In fertility treatments since 2007. *Clomid tx's X 4 with 3 of them BFN and 1 that I had 2 false BFP's before the official BFN. * 2009- IUI X3 with all 3 BFN's. *2010- 2 IVF's with both BFN's. * Taking break to pay off IVF bills unti
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Wed, 12-21-2011 - 3:17pm
I made the mistake of telling a friend, this is why I keep it to myself now! She actually sent me a bulleted list of all her friends who went through infertility. She listed what they did and the outcomes! Miscarriages and all!!!!!!!! WHO DOES THIS?

Yeah if one more person tells me it will just happen, I'm going to go Clark Griswald circa Christmas Vacation on them!!!! LOL
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Tue, 12-20-2011 - 9:29pm

Yeah and then there are the people who say "such and such tried a while to get pregnant and when they stopped trying, they got pregnant. Maybe you should try that."

***TTC since 2005. *In fertility treatments since 2007. *Clomid tx's X 4 with 3 of them BFN and 1 that I had 2 false BFP's before the official BFN. * 2009- IUI X3 with all 3 BFN's. *2010- 2 IVF's with both BFN's. * Taking break to pay off IVF bills unti
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Registered: 11-10-2011
Tue, 12-20-2011 - 7:50pm
I'm sorry you feel alone and frustrated. I know when people say, "I understand", it's hard to believe, but I do. All my tests came back fine, but my husbands didn't. I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND HOW INSENSITIVE PEOPLE CAN BE!!! I don't understand why people think it's okay to ask when are you planning on having children! DUH maybe we are!!!! I really don't talk to people about it either b/c they say "oh there is so much doctors can do nowadays" I seriously want to scream when people say that! REALLY bc I don't really want to go through all of this craziness! LOL Don't be ashamed :) Trust me there are plenty of couples out there having problems conceiving...I'm right here :) I feel your pain, your frustration, your hurt and jealousy. I would say it's all very normal to feel this way! I feel it too! Just know you're not alone!
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Sat, 12-17-2011 - 9:55pm

I am sorry you are going through this.

Karri

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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 2:20pm
I just wanted to send you lots of (((HUGS))) and to welcome you to the board. I'm glad that you found us, there are other women on here who are feeling the same way as you, it does help to know you aren't alone. I do think that it's hard to be open about infertility, most of the time people have no idea how to respond or be there for each other. What is your next step with testing?

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