IF fight w/ family...
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|Tue, 09-02-2008 - 7:50pm|
So tonight there was a huge argument between me and my parents. In short: (a) I am being dramatic; (b) I am being too stubborn and not patient, and (c) my mother has PCOS and she had 3 kids, so I can't be as bad as I claim.
Anyway. I went over to my parents' house for dinner tonight, as DH is working both jobs and won't be home till midnight. Dinner went fine, and my mom actually asked about our SA visit tomorrow. But then I made the mistake of telling my parents that later in the month, DH and I are going on an "inspirational walk & talk" at the local nature center. The walk & talk is being given by the director of our IF center and one of the counselors. I think it'll be a good thing for DH and I to go to, even if it does end up being over-the-top New Age...at least we'll have a laugh together! Well, my parents thought this was the dumbest thing ever. "What is that going to do? Explain the birds and the bees again? hahaha!" Then my mom is like, "Who's idea was this? Yours? Why are you dragging Marcus into this?" (Nevermind that DH thinks it's a good idea too).
Now you'd think I'd learn to shut up, right? No. I get all defensive and said that I was also going to try acupuncture. Well this just set the both of them off poking fun. What is that supposed to do, how is that helping, etc etc etc. Then my dad passes a comment like, "Just wait for things to work". Things meaning my ovaries. Gee, sure, ok.
Then my mom tells me that my uncle had passed a comment to her, asking her if I was pregnant yet. She told him no and I guess this was funny: he says to her, "Well maybe God is giving her a hint, haha hoho!" I know he was joking, but COME ON!
So I got all mad and told my mom she has no idea because she had three full-term pregnancies. To that she responds that she also had 3 m/c. So I said, "you got pregnant with me SECOND MONTH TRYING. You didn't get stuck with the non-functioning reproductive system right off the bat." THen it turns into that I am bitter, I'm nasty, and I'm being over dramatic. That if I just stop all this nonsense and be patient...so basically, stop going to doctors, stop temping, stop charting, stop POASing.
I never once lost my temper, but finally I got pissed and said, "so basically, I should just buck it up and wait for my body to decide to ovulate". Then my dad chimes in: you don't know you're not ovulating, blahblahblah. I guess my body just really gets a kick out of 40+ cycles. Then my mother chimes in: "You haven't been trying that long. You're making it into a big production". Isn't it better that I find out my body isn't working NOW, instead of going through heartache for months and months without knowing WHY!?!
So I just grabbed my stuff and came back to my own house. I guess I can never have children b/c I am a bitter, nasty drama queen. I'm trying to do things that are positive for me: acupuncture, alternative therapy, and instead I get laughed at and I'm "dragging DH along". I should have just kept my mouth shut.
Edited 9/2/2008 7:54 pm ET by kristylee105