If one more person...

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If one more person...
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Fri, 01-13-2012 - 1:22am

I try to stay positive. I try to be happy for all of my PG friends and family members.

Britty  & DH (both 30) TTC since late 2008

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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 8:06pm

When I read this I had to giggle through my tears. It's comforting to know that other people feel this same way. I'm a crying mess today, AF once again. People don't know what it's like to have BFN every single month 18 times in a row. It's enough that we have to deal with that, I wish someone would just say, "I have no idea what you're going through, but I'm here if you need a shoulder to just cry on." I don't want any suggestions on how to relax, or stop trying and it will happen, and I don't want to hear any more stories of your sister in law or friend that had been trying for 2yrs and when they stopped trying it just happened...I would never wish infertility on my worst enemy, it is one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with. It is comforting to know that there are actually women that know exactly how I'm feeling.

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Wed, 04-18-2012 - 2:54pm

i feel your pain. If one more person told me to relax, do acupuncture, just "keep trying" I was going to punch someone!!! hang in there. i get it!

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Mon, 04-09-2012 - 12:00am
-big hugs- I hate the God comments. I have faith and once I reach those gates I will ask him all the why questions. However I don't need people trying to guess Gods plan for me. Very frustrating. I hope it gets better soon.

Dixie

"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella

TTC since April 2009

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Sun, 04-08-2012 - 1:54am

Sorry, I know that this post hasn't been commented on in awhile, but I just want to say that I had the same type of thing happen to me yesterday, by my DH of all people.

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Fri, 01-20-2012 - 7:06pm
Ugh I COMPLETELY understand. I know I have had my miracle but I still feel connected to you ladies. I HATED the relax and it will happen comment the most. Relaxation will not fix my PCOS or stop my miscarraiges. And adoption certainly won't either. I simply tried to smile at them then would come here and vent. It felt SOO good to get it off my chest at least here.

Dixie

"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella

TTC since April 2009

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Mon, 01-16-2012 - 8:34pm
Ugh Amen girls!!! I hear you loud and clear. I wish people could just stop with comments. I know the most of them mean well, but sometimes hearing a person say "I have nothing to say that can make you feel better" and just offer you a hug or shoulder to cry on is what can make things better. Don't pretend to know how I feel when your house is full of kids.

Jemma (35) and DH, (37). Married October 13, 2007 and TTCing since April 2008. Dealing with PCOS, swollen tubes, and also MFI. Committing myself to getting healthy and losing weight in preparation for IVF later in 2012.

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Fri, 01-13-2012 - 10:49pm

exactly!

Britty  & DH (both 30) TTC since late 2008

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Fri, 01-13-2012 - 1:58pm

Ugh, I hear you on every single one of those points! The jokes/dismissals of our problem seems to have diminished with our continued losses...but people said things non-stop in the beginning. "Go on vacation and then you'll get pg", um, tried that didn't work, "just get drunk and do it, that's how I got pg", um, again, tried that MULTIPLE times with no success, "why don't you just adopt", um, it's super expensive and long process plus I would like a biolgical child if at all possible...I could go on and on...hang in there...infertility is so unfair and hurtful and people just could never imagine unless they've been through it.

-Jamie