IUI #1=BFN

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Registered: 08-03-2008
IUI #1=BFN
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Sun, 06-14-2009 - 12:00pm

Hi---


I'm such a positivie person by nature, I always see the glass half full.  But, now after 13 failed cycles and no explanation as to why, I am becoming so sad and feeling so hopeless.  This is the hardest thing to go through.  I can only be so strong for so long.  I don't know how so many of you on here have been going through this for years....you are so strong. We all deserve to be mothers....


So now I'm at a crossroads....I think DH and I are going to take a break for a month or so.  Part of me really looks forward to not waking up at the crack of dawn for BW an US, taking pills, giving myself shots.....but part of me feels like I don't want to miss a month.  I just don't what what to do.  If we take off a month and try au naturale and fail, then to start IVF, I have to be on BCP for a month and so it's like taking two months off.   I wish I could just stop obsessing about a timeline, but it is so hard.  For those of you who have taken breaks, are you happy you did or do you regret the loss of time?


Thanks for being here for me.  I truely don't know who else (besides DH, of course) I would turn to during these low moments.  Thank you for making me feel not alone and truly understanding what I am going through.  I don't know anyone IRL that is going through IF right now so this board helps me so much.


~Lori

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Registered: 01-13-2009
In reply to: newatttc
Sun, 06-14-2009 - 3:46pm

Oh, Lori, I'm so sorry it was BFN.

After struggling with infertility, we welcomed our son Noah on March 18, 2010! Formerly a teacher, I am now a breastfeeding, babywearing, stay at home Mom, and I couldn't love it any more!
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Registered: 07-29-2008
In reply to: newatttc
Sun, 06-14-2009 - 4:11pm

hey Lori,


Big HUGS!!! I'm so sorry things aren't going well and are pulling you down. This is such an incredibly hard journey but I believe you will find your light at the end of your tunnel. It sounds like a break might be perfect for you guys. Sometimes a break is truly a gift. Spend some time doing "you" things! Hang in there and know that we are all here for you! I wouldn't have made it without this board either! I'm pulling for you and here for you whenever you need an ear.


:) Kitty

Me-30, DH newly 34, diagnosed with PCOS in Nov/Dec 2008. 3 Failed cycles of Clomid. (50mg, 100mg, 150mg) Started working with RE Nov 26. Asked for & started M

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Registered: 02-11-2008
In reply to: newatttc
Sun, 06-14-2009 - 5:10pm
Big ((HUGS)) Lori.

Isabel
Mom to Sebastian Robert after 3+ years of infertility

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Registered: 01-31-2008
In reply to: newatttc
Sun, 06-14-2009 - 6:30pm

I'm so sorry Lori.

The only time I've been on break I didn't really have a choice in the matter. Before I had the surgery in December I went through months of being on hold. It drove me nuts but at least there wasn't disappointment when AF showed because you knew it was coming, no expectations of a bfp.

Maybe an au naturale month would be good for you and DH. Just to be yourselves again like before you started ttc.

Kelly


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Registered: 06-28-2008
In reply to: newatttc
Sun, 06-14-2009 - 9:44pm
(((((HUGS))))) Lori.
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Registered: 03-07-2009
In reply to: newatttc
Mon, 06-15-2009 - 2:06am

Lori,
I'm so sorry about your BFN... I feel like trying something new, like the IUI, instills so much hope in us that when that also fails, it feels like a huge let down. Maybe now would be a good time for a break for you guys. A month or two isn't very long in the big scheme of things. I hope that you and your DH come to a decision that will work for the best for both of you. Good luck!

~~~~~


Me- 31, DH- 31; TTC #1 since Nov. '07; No known FI issues; DH has borderline/low motility
IUI #1 on Apr. 25--BFN; IUI #2 on May 22-- BFN
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Registered: 10-31-2008
In reply to: newatttc
Mon, 06-15-2009 - 8:51am

Hi Lori,


Sorry about your BFN.

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Registered: 08-03-2008
In reply to: newatttc
Mon, 06-15-2009 - 11:04am

Thanks for your message, Lauren.

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Registered: 08-03-2008
In reply to: newatttc
Mon, 06-15-2009 - 11:07am

Thanks Kitty, I keep going back and forth on my decision.

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Registered: 08-03-2008
In reply to: newatttc
Mon, 06-15-2009 - 11:10am

Thanks Isabel, I am so impressed you took a

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