Lay-off, BFN, sick dog, counseling?

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Lay-off, BFN, sick dog, counseling?
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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 3:30pm

I have been holding this all in for too long I think!  Poor DH didn't know what to do with me Saturday morning when I finally fell apart.  **I didn't realize how long this would be until I typed it... you've been warned!**


I found out that I'll most likely be laid off this spring.  :(  It sounds horrible but I know I'll likely be recalled before actually losing any working time.  The horrible part is that this will be the 8th time in 7 years that I'll have to move to a new school.  What happened to trying to provide consistancy for students?   I am so tired of being bumped from place to place. 


I probably could have handled the lay-off issue okay but I found that out Friday afternoon and then had another BFN on Saturday morning.  I had been hopeful since I was on increased meds and I O'd on vacation.  I should know better than to get my hopes up at all...  Then I could just be shocked if something actually happens and I end up with a BFP.


Then to top it all off, my dog got into something outside that made her VERY sick and she was sick all over the (carpeted) living room floor.  That was the straw that broke the camel's back.  I just started to cry and I couldn't stop at all for at least half an hour.  I'm not a big crier but I just couldn't stop. 


Last night I was chatting with my mom (online - she's away traveling).  She doesn't get my drama queen/stressed out/everything is the end of the world attitude at all sometimes.  Usually she's really supportive but she decided to say to me that, "Unless you both have full time jobs, you can't afford to buy a house, go on vacation and start a family."  Gee thanks.  That really helped me feel better about the situation.  Definitely made me not want to start crying again!  My response was, "I have to go help DH with dinner now.  Bye."  She tries sometimes to get it but she can't help being "right" and feeling she needs to tell me.  I'm well aware of our situation and I really don't need to be reminded of what we "should" have. 


Ugh!  I'm just so depressed and frustrated right now that it's hard to think.  I have to make some decisions related to the lay off situation and I don't know what to do.  I don't think going into this first IUI cycle with so much stress is a good idea but I'm having a hard time letting it go. 


So now I've vented... I don't know if I feel much better but I guess it does help to put it all down in writing.  Let's see - Lay-off, BFN, sick dog, Mom not understanding.  I think I got it all. 


Has anyone had experience with counsellors?  I think I might need one.  For now, anyway, I'm covered for that through my employer (Anonymous too, which is good.  None of their beeswax!) so maybe I should take advantage. 


Heather

~ Meron born 12-09-11 after 3 1/2 years of TTC, IUIs and IVF.
~ #2 on the way(!) and due 06-06-13.

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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 3:41pm

Oh Heather, I am so sorry things are so stressful for you right now. It is so hard to deal with the BFN when our hopes are high. I have yet to see someone over the whole IF process and stress that comes along with it. I felt last month I really needed to see one when everything fell apart. I hope things get better for you soon.


As far as the dog, I have 2 and it is never fun to clean up after them especially when they are sick. It also causes stress when you think about do I have to bring them in and how much will this cost me. I hope your pooch is doing better today.


My mother is supportive but sometimes she does not think before she says stuff. I know she means well but at times I just want to tell her to shut-up. I have learned not to tell her everything as to not give her to much to go on.


I hope your day is better today and the Holiday weekend will help you relax. Hugs to you and your DH.

Me ~ 31  DH ~ 33  TTC #1 since August 2002. Dealing with mild Endo, PCOS, D

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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 11:02am

Super big hugs Heather! Sometimes it all just gets to be too much and it is time for it to all come out.

I am a big proponent for counseling, even if it is a group setting of women experiencing IF, whatever it takes.

 

Kelly

I'm 38, DH is 42 and we are TTC #1. We've had 3 unexplained miscarriages and a bout with Asherman's Syndrome but we're determined.

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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 1:59pm

Thanks Kelly.

~ Meron born 12-09-11 after 3 1/2 years of TTC, IUIs and IVF.
~ #2 on the way(!) and due 06-06-13.

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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 2:04pm

Thanks Katrina.


I'm feeling better today.

~ Meron born 12-09-11 after 3 1/2 years of TTC, IUIs and IVF.
~ #2 on the way(!) and due 06-06-13.

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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 8:21pm

Heather, I'm so sorry everything seemed to hit you at once.


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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 10:05pm

Sorry you had such a crappy day Heather. I know exactly how you feel about cleaning up after the pets. I have a couple dogs that have barfing probs and they only choose to do it on the carpet. I'm glad you and your pup are feeling better today. This whole IF journey gets tough....just try to stay stong hun! You have a place where you can vent and we all understand. GL with the whole lay-off situation.

 Lori


 


DH and I are 33yrs old. TTC #1 since May08| July09- Dx POF|  Aug09- started Premarin, Metformin, and Lupron

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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 10:46pm

Oh my goodness, what a crappy weekend. That is terrible that you have to keep switching schools. I totally get it when things just keep piling up and finally you crack. I have been through it more times than I can count. Big hugs on the BFN, those suck. I'm glad your puppy is finally feeling better. I have a cat that pukes up everything he eats. It's always on something soft. I wish he would just puke on the kitchen floor. I think seeing a councellor might be a good thing. There have ben times I think I need one, but we are without insurance right now.

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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 2:49pm

Thanks Lori.

~ Meron born 12-09-11 after 3 1/2 years of TTC, IUIs and IVF.
~ #2 on the way(!) and due 06-06-13.

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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 4:57pm
oh heather i am sorry that everything just piled up on ya all at once. i have felt that feeling more than a few times and it just sucks, plain and simple. i understand completely having
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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 6:28pm

Thanks Melissa.

~ Meron born 12-09-11 after 3 1/2 years of TTC, IUIs and IVF.
~ #2 on the way(!) and due 06-06-13.