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Sun, 01-04-2009 - 7:50am

ok ladies! I have to talk to my boss tomorrow about the baby (the mean boss who doesnt like PG women). Both my doctors have written letters of recommendation about allowing me to continue working. Can y'all read my cover letter and tell me what you think?? I bleeped out names for privacy.


 


January 5, 2009


 


Dear Mr. Mean:



Enclosed are two letters of recommendation from my doctors currently treating me: Dr. Joseph Blah, my primary care and family physician, and Dr. Christopher Blahblahblah, my obstetrician. Both doctors are supportive and enthusiastic about my desire to remain working full time both as an instructor and as an embalmer.  My only hindrance is that I cannot lift more than 25 pounds.


Dr. Blahhas been my primary care doctor since I was a teenager. Dr. Blahblahblah has been overseeing my pregnancy visits since early December and continues to care for the pregnancy.  Neither Dr. Blah nor Dr. Blahblahblah find any reason as to why I should curb my prep room activities while I am wearing a formaldehyde respirator. I have purchased a 3M respirator with formaldehyde cartridges from Crescent Sales Company and plan to use it every time I am in the prep room.


I believe it is important that I remain a fixture in the prep room whether I am pregnant or not. Being pregnant does not detract from my skills. Additionally, I feel it sets an important example for the female students at Dead School. It would not send a positive message if, because of my pregnancy, I stopped embalming and shunned the prep work. The funeral business is difficult as it is for women to break into; pregnancy no longer is a threat or a risk to the profession thanks to modern respirators. Further, my doctors have assured me that formaldehyde exposure is not threat to the viability of a fetus or a pregnancy.


Additionally, I will not be requesting a lighter course load. I plan to remain working at Dead School throughout the summer semesters since the baby is not due until mid-August. I will be returning to Dead School for my normal course load in Fall 2009. I am requesting that no courses are taken from my roster due to my pregnancy or the birth of my child. I already have child care accounted for while I am working.


I sincerely hope that you continue to see me as a strong instructor and a positive influence and role model for the students of Dead School.  If you have any questions, please feel free to call either of my doctors.


 


Respectfully yours,


 



Kristy Lee XXXX, LFD


 





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Registered: 03-17-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 8:25am

Hi Kristy:

It looks fine to me (although I had to laugh about the dead school part). I am big believer in putting things in writing and thought your letter was clear with a purpose, plus you spelled out which modifications you would be making (not lifting over 25lbs, wearing the respirator), etc... I was wondering if you would be doing embalming and now I understand how you can do it.

A completely not fertility related question but something for your line of work... we had a soldier come back and Dover had written that the remains were "unviewable." The family insisted on a viewing and the funeral director tried but he still looked awful. What do you as the funeral director do in these moments. Do you advise the family (after you have assessed the remains) that they are better off not seeing their loved one? Do you have to go with their wishes? The escort with the remains was very traumatized after seeing them (he checked the uniform on the body to make sure everything looked right). Do you have any advice?

Thanks,
Gabrielle


IVF 1# ICSI & AH-BFN


Waiting for DH to come home to try again!


In the meantime, herbs and prayers


Check out my fertility blogs at http://soldierinstirrups.blogspot.com/

Franklin and Callan

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 10:17am
Kristy the letter looks d to me...GL

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Registered: 05-19-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 10:17am

I've had situations where the family insisted on seeing what was, in my opinion, an unviewable body. I would bust my butt to get the body looking decent to MY standards. If the family insisted, and I mean INSISTED, I would have them sign a waiver/disclaimer stating that they are of sound mind and want to view the remains despite the recommendations of the funeral director. That would protect me in the case of a lawsuit...and people nowadays are sue happy. Especially since "mental anguish" is easy to win a case with!


In my experience, I allowed ONLY the immediate family to view the remains briefly, to say goodbye. If they were having calling hours I said the casket had to be closed for the public. It is a very difficult sitaution and it has to be dealt with on a case-by-case basis.





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Registered: 09-11-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 11:33am

Kristy Lee, I think the letter looks great. Good luck and let us know what happens.

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Registered: 06-12-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 11:49am

Kristylee,


That is a terrific letter!!!!

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Registered: 05-19-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 1:59pm

"LOL @ Dead School"


hahaha that's what my family calls it!! I called my friends from there my "dead school buddies"!





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Registered: 05-03-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 2:03pm

It looks good.

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Registered: 08-10-2007
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 2:04pm

Kristy Lee, I think your letter looks great.

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Registered: 03-17-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 2:50pm

Kristy and Reba:

Thank you for answering my question. I appreciate your experiences.

Gabrielle


IVF 1# ICSI & AH-BFN


Waiting for DH to come home to try again!


In the meantime, herbs and prayers


Check out my fertility blogs at http://soldierinstirrups.blogspot.com/

Franklin and Callan

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Registered: 06-22-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 4:37pm

Looks good, except I think you left out the word "a" in this sentance:


"Further, my doctors have assured me that formaldehyde exposure is not threat to the viability of a fetus or a pregnancy."


I think you mean "...exposure is not A threat..."


Best of luck! :)

Erin & Ryan Sig
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