My First RE Appointment

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Registered: 09-01-2004
My First RE Appointment
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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 4:58pm

So everything was going really well at my RE appointment. Things are pretty much the way they were when I was trying to get pregnant with Wyatt. I am mostly healthy and have had healthy pregnancies. It seemed like they were going to run the blood tests to check my hormones and my thyroid and do an ultrasound to see if any of the endometriosis has come back that I had removed last time. Then her partner says "The only problem we have is your weight ... I will go consult with your doctor on that." So they both come back and she says my weight is the only issue. I told her my weight is only about 30 pounds heavier then it was 3 years ago when she helped me get pregnant. She said Mayo has new rules that say your BMI has to be 40 or lower and mine is 58. She let it slide last time but my weight has increased this time and now Mayo has that rule. They will break the rule if I can prove that I am making an effort to lose weight and I am healthy. Otherwise I have to lose 100 pounds before we can start with Clomid again. I agreed to see a nutrionist and possibly a specialist in the weight loss clinic. I have a 3 hour glucose test on Wednesday. If I am pre diabetic or diabetic they will put me on Metformin. Basically my worst case scenario came true. I was afraid she would say you weigh to much and have to lose weight before we help you get pregnant and that is exactly what happened. I get it but I am still mad and upset. But really there is nothing else I can do. Mayo rules everything out here and Mayo is what Ethan's insurance will pay for. So I have to play by their rules and keep trying to get pregnant on my own until I either get pregnant or lose enough for them to give me Clomid.

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Tue, 03-20-2012 - 5:29am
I am so sorry you ran into the weight issue. I hit that brick wall with my first RE. Thankfully I found another one and they helped me despite my weight. Good luck to you.

Dixie

"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella

TTC since April 2009

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Tue, 03-20-2012 - 12:47pm
I'm sorry, that just stinks :( It's so frustrating because weight wasn't an issue when you conceived Wyatt.

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Tue, 03-20-2012 - 12:49pm
Nope not an issue at all. Now they have made it the main issue.
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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 9:54pm
Amy Lynn!! Hey girl! Glad you found your way over here.
A subject I know well... Being told you won't get any treatment until you lose weight! It's so frustrating. What doctors don't think about is the fact that hearing something like that justmakes you more frustrated and more depressed and those emotions certainly DO NOT facillitate weight loss!!! In my case, I've never even been close to being pregnant and who knows when the last time I ovulated. But you have had 2 great pregnancies and once you got pregnant with Bryan and Wyatt, everything went well. I understand that for procedures like IVF they would want you at a certain BMI. But Clomid is so simple and there are no procedures involved so I don't really understand it since it was proven to work last time. I really wish they would judge people on overall health rather than a number!!! Ok stepping off my soapbox now...lol.
I hope to figure something out....will your OBGYN prescribe Clomid? Mine does, so maybe yours will too. Anyway, good luck girlie!

Jemma (35) and DH, (37). Married October 13, 2007 and TTCing since April 2008. Dealing with PCOS, swollen tubes, and also MFI. Committing myself to getting healthy and losing weight in preparation for IVF later in 2012.

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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 11:46pm
She helped me last time at this weight so it is really annoying that she won't help me now.
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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 11:48pm
I have struggled today with being really angry. Why now? Why was it ok to help me last time but not this time? Why have your morals suddenly change? I have had 2 healthy pregnancies. One of them while being this heavy. Why does everyone always assume because I am fat I am unhealthy? Part of me wants to pass the glucose test just so I can say I TOLD YOU SO! But then part of me wants to fail so they will put me on metformin.
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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 11:50pm
Mine has for some one I know in the past. But I don't know if he still does. He is the one that got the ball rolling for us the first time with the testing. I am not sure if he would give me the clomid or just tell me to go back to the RE.
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