not able to cope with PG friends/family!
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|Tue, 05-04-2010 - 2:15pm|
I don't know if I am just incredibly self-centred and selfish or if it is normal to find it incredibly difficult to deal with the pregnancies of friends and families.
I can't stop getting weepy every time someone else makes an announcement. Each 'wonderful news' moment feels like a pile drive.
I am now in my early thirties. My own school and university friends all seem to have had kids years ago. Now it is younger siblings, cousins, colleagues and friends who are pregnant.
I can't cope with the weekly photo updates of growing bumps, the daily staffroom discussion about kids and babies, or the 'wonderful news' phone calls and e-mails.
I am feeling so isolated. The only think women my age seem to talk about is babies and kids. I feel like there is this essential club I will never belong to. I cannot join in the conversation, and they seem unable to discuss anything else.
Every month, when my period comes yet again, I have to manage to pull myself together and get myself to work - inevitably, it seems that I run straight into a PG colleague swapping stories with other mums.
I sobbed after hanging up the phone when my younger brother announced they were PG. My husband found me crying and accused me of being selfish - but I just couldn't cope with another reinforcement of my failings. They are now due this week and I am at an absolute low.
Even when friends and family know some of the struggles we are going through, I can't help but feel a complete lack of sensitivity. I have been isolating myself more and more from everyone.
My husband and I went for a spa break this past weekend, hoping for some couple time and some quiet. We were surrounded by families with babies and young kids. I wanted to scream.
Is it normal for me to feel this way? When I try to detach from my emotions, I know I must seem like a really selfish person.
Does anyone else find it really hard to cope with other people's pregnancies? Does anyone have coping strategies that help them deal with this?