Please help me not SCREAM!

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Please help me not SCREAM!
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Tue, 10-26-2010 - 3:23pm

Ok so I am aware this might make me sound like a bad person. However if you knew my sister in law I do not think most of you would feel this way.

So a little background. (I am sure some of you guys already know some of this as I have shared it before). My sister in law started going out with this guy when her mother died. I strongly believe she does not love him as much as she thinks she does. She was very attached to her mother and both my DH and my other SIL had significant others. She verbally stated she felt alone and not even a month after her mother passed she was dating this guy seriously. Keep in mind this guy had been trying for MONTHS and my SIL had stated several times she could not stand him.

Fast forward some and the both of them have NO jobs, live in a rental property my other SIL's boyfriend owns, cannot afford the rent, are on food stamps and are now both on unemployment. And of course, they are pregnant. To say I was devistated would be a HUGE understatement. The girl has not talked to me since my wedding over a year ago. She never wishes me happy birthday (Im not sure she knows when my birthday is). So today she messages me on Facebook. Guess what, asking for money. Because somehow she ended up with $150 cell phone bill she can't pay.

I am so mad I cannot stand it. I was respectful but the whole time I was fuming. I told her we could not help her out and said something about taxes we had to pay and some other bills. I just cant believe it....I don't ever say I hate people but I can say if she were not my SIL I would probably NEVER talk to her again. All my DH's family does is ask for money. The only time they talk to us is for that reason.

Sorry I had to vent to people who would understand. I hate to bad mouth my DH's family around him. He feels the same way but his sisters are his only immediate family left since both his parents have already passed away.

Dixie

"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella

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Tue, 10-26-2010 - 6:47pm

Dixie, I completely understand why you are so upset. That would be frustrating beyond belief. I think it is okay to love someone and not like them very much. Your SIL sounds like someone who is not likeable with the way she lives her life. If she cannot afford a $150 cell phone what on earth will they do when the baby comes?!

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Tue, 10-26-2010 - 8:50pm
Yeah I'm pretty sure I don't like your sil, I dislike irresponsible adults. Come on get your life together, jeeze. I agree with Emmy what the hell will she do when the baby comes? I get pissed when I read stuff like this, why the hell are they having babies and not us wonderful ladies??? Anyhow it seems like you dealt with her pretty well.

Amanda

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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 7:59am

Dixie,

I'm not sure it helps, but I have a SIL that's like this as well.

Robin

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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 10:32am

Dixie,

Looks like we are both having issues with our SIL's- ofcourse, completely different scenerios!

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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 2:14pm

Dixie,

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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 5:28pm

Thank you guys SO MUCH. I do not know what I would do without you guys. As to what my SIL will do when the baby is born (I just found out it will be a boy) is she will continue to ask for money. That is certainly what my other SIL does. All they do is hold out their hands for help. And they are completely ungrateful for it.

It is frustrating but some day I will have children and my SIL will be WONDERFUL examples of what not to be like.

Dixie

"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella

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Thu, 10-28-2010 - 2:32pm

That's right.