Stupid MIL vent

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Registered: 02-11-2008
Stupid MIL vent
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Tue, 05-05-2009 - 1:12pm

DH and I went to see a lawyer yesterday morning about changing the deed on the house from solely my MIL to either all three of us or just DH and I.  We need to do renovations, which require getting a mortgage and, oh yeah, we need to pay for all the DE stuff too.  So we learned the different ways to structure the transition of the house since the MIL lives there and will continue to live there.


Last night we had another chat with MIL about what we learned and before DH can finish saying anything she all but yells "I have to keep my name on the deed".  What the heck was that about?  It seems that the MIL thinks that if her names comes off the deed that we'll throw her out on the street.  Seriously?  She has so little faith in her relationship with her son and DIL that she thinks we would throw her out rendering her homeless?  Tell ya what, makes me want to toss her butt on to the driveway and slam the door!


I am so pissed at this point I don't know what to do.  We had even talked about "paying" the MIL by taking the mortgage, transferring the money to her and then using the $$ to renovate and for DE.  But now, I don't trust the woman at all.  DH and I have been talking with her about all of this for ages and now she gets nasty again. 


It just makes me not want to go home tonight.  I thought we had turned a corner and things were looking up and then she has to turn into the evil witch of the western world yet again.  She doesn't know about the implications of all this on our IF plans since the MIL was the one who outed our IF issues to the entire family last year because "we never told her it was a secret."  I'm just depressed now that we actually have a plan and that the MIL is causing problems again. 

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Isabel
Mom to Sebastian Robert after 3+ years of infertility

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Registered: 01-31-2008
In reply to: izzyd08
Tue, 05-05-2009 - 1:32pm

Hugs Izzy! Sorry your MIL is being so weird about all of this. Certainly she knows that you guys aren't going to kick her out!?

I can't believe she blurted to the whole family about your IF struggles too. Urgh, not cool.

Kelly


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Registered: 10-31-2008
In reply to: izzyd08
Tue, 05-05-2009 - 2:44pm
HUGS Sweetie.

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Registered: 10-27-2007
In reply to: izzyd08
Tue, 05-05-2009 - 3:03pm

So, she won't go for all 3 of you on the deed? Or weren't you able to go that far?

Karen S


Samantha Kelly ~i~ 7/31/07


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Registered: 04-05-2009
In reply to: izzyd08
Tue, 05-05-2009 - 4:08pm

Oh Isabel...I'm so sorry.

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Faith (35) Matt (40)

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Registered: 11-07-2008
In reply to: izzyd08
Tue, 05-05-2009 - 5:19pm
Isabel, I'm sorry your MIL has turned into her evil witch self


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Registered: 03-22-2009
In reply to: izzyd08
Tue, 05-05-2009 - 5:22pm

Faith you took the words right out of my mouth!

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Registered: 02-11-2008
In reply to: izzyd08
Tue, 05-05-2009 - 5:30pm

Thanks everyone.


Right now, I am dodging going home, trying to come up with errands, work, etc.

Isabel
Mom to Sebastian Robert after 3+ years of infertility