Very sad and frustrated these days

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Registered: 12-16-2006
Very sad and frustrated these days
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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 3:53pm

I go through so many ups and downs feeling good about things then being totally down in the dumps that we have no options right now.  It seems like so many are getting BFP's or moving on to more treatments/decisions that bring them closer to a BFP and I am so ANGRY that my becoming a mother someday is totally dependent on money!  Don't get me wrong, month to month we could afford a baby, but coming up with thousands of dollars for IVF or adoption is not an option.  We are in dept because of the business we bought, which is going well and is fine, but there's no room on our credit to come up with a loan, and since the economy has been so down, business isn't booming like we had hoped at this point.


I just feel so depressed that no matter what research, or planning I'd like to do, I'm slapped in the face with a price tag!  Sorry for being such a downer, I just need to vent every once in a while.   

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Registered: 09-11-2008
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 4:00pm
( ( ( ( H U G S ) ) ) ) I have the exact same feelings. So many times I start bawling to DH about how we can't afford IVF, or DE or adoption. Sometimes I just want to give up because I'm afraid that when we finally pay for something we will be so in debt we will lose our house or not even be able to feed us. Don't feel sorry for venting, I'm sure everyone on this board feels the same. And that's what we are here for anyway. Vent away!!!!
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Registered: 06-12-2008
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 4:43pm

Amber....


First of all....(((((HUGS))))))


Second....you never have to apologize for venting....I am in the same boat you are.....we can't afford all to go any farther right now...just got back from the docs and found out that in order to have more invasive testing done on DH most of it will come out of pocket....and we are not in the position to pay for it either....Your right it does totally suck about there being a price tag on all of these....from what I understand in some states it's mandatory for insurance companies to cover infertilty treatments....in my opinion it shoud be mandatory in all states...Frankly it sucks and the insurance company can BITE ME!!!!


I could go on and on all day about how unfair this is...but it does feel alot better to say BITE ME expensive infertility treatments....try it out


--Jeanne


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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 5:37pm

((((HUGS))))

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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 6:10pm
  

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Registered: 12-16-2006
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 6:29pm
I do know exactly how you feel!
 

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Registered: 12-16-2006
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 6:33pm
Thanks Jeanne, you're right, it does make me feel better to say Bite me!
 

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Registered: 12-16-2006
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 6:36pm
Jessica, we have pretty much decided the same thing, since there is a "chance" we might someday conceive on our own, and all that money for IVF is not a gaurentee, we have pretty much decided we'll adopt before we do IVF, but that's still a bunch of money!
 

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Registered: 11-04-2006
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 6:39pm
Lotsa {{{HUGS}}} Amber...

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Registered: 12-16-2006
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 6:44pm
Thanks Susan, I think I have just needed lots of hugs today.
 

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Registered: 12-16-2006
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 6:45pm

thanks Laura, you girls are the best :)

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