Watching everyone else....find success

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Registered: 11-14-2006
Watching everyone else....find success
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 12:00am

I have been left behind in so many ttc groups that I stopped coming here. My closest friends when I start on TTC boards MANY MANY years ago....all had their babies long ago. My one friends who was unsucessul like me.....well she just got her baby after years and years of trying (she finally adopted). Meanwhile I accepted my inability to conceive. Each time I believe I have accepted it.....someone or something reminds me that my heart is still deeply saddened by all the years of ttc and failure. The pills, creams, shots, ultrasounds, surgery, tests, insem......the negative tests.....and the emptiness still remains. I can't get it out of my head. This week has been esp hard. Everyone talks about their kids....or are expecting. There is NOBODY I can talk to about this. So here I am....back to the boards.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-28-2009
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 10:36am

I know exactly what you mean. I have friends who are on baby number 2 that started with baby number 1 after I was trying. It's heartbreaking. When will it be my turn?


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Registered: 06-05-2007
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 1:18pm

Hello there...I feel like I could have written the very same post. So many friends of mine that married at the same time as I did are on their 2nd or 3rd child by now. There are people I graduated high school with that have teenagers!! I have been on these boards for quite a while too, and while I am so excited to see ladies on this board get pg it seems like everytime I join a new board there is a surge in BFP's. It's happened on about 3 boards now.

Jemma (35) and DH, (37). Married October 13, 2007 and TTCing since April 2008. Dealing with PCOS, swollen tubes, and also MFI. Committing myself to getting healthy and losing weight in preparation for IVF later in 2012.