Why is this bothering me so much?

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Why is this bothering me so much?
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Thu, 12-31-2009 - 9:25am

So I told you all about my BFF who is pg again (the one who made sure she told me that they tried for 4 months this time... awe poor thing) (also the one who started ttc when I did and is on her second successful pg)

Anywho, she posted some pics on Facebook and also sent out her Christmas pics and there were a few of her 15 month old daughter wearing a T-shirt that says "I have a secret" on the front and "I'm going to be a Big Sister" on the back. It has me so upset and frankly so jealous. I can't imagine being able to buy such a shirt or feeling confident enough to announce a pregnancy on facebook at 8 weeks. Honestly, I am having a really hard time being around her right now. I don't want to hear about her pg, it just really hurts. I know it is irrational and selfish of me but I just really wish I could avoid her and her perfect little life. She tries to complain to me about whatever and I just don't want to hear it. Like for instance, she is telling me last night how she is feeling fat because her clothes aren't fitting her. Um, no, you're not fat you're pg biotch, quit complaining!

okay, just needed to vent to people who understand. I can't tell DH this or he would think I was evil.

 
edited to say... I don't feel this way about any of the preggers here at all! I am overjoyed with the pg's here.

Kelly

I'm 37, DH is 41 and we are TTC #1. We've had 2 unexplained miscarriages and a bout with Asherman's Syndrome but we're determined.

IUI #1 = BFN

IUI #2 (Aug 09) = BFN

On to IVF - stims start Sept 14th!  IVF Canceled:( converted to IUI...

BFP!!!
13dpo - 65
15dpo - 128
19dpo - 495
23dpo - 1987
...another miscarriage
Sad and trying to decide what steps to take next.




Edited 12/31/2009 9:27 am ET by cl-lookingformy1st

 

Kelly

I'm 38, DH is 42 and we are TTC #1. We've had 3 unexplained miscarriages and a bout with Asherman's Syndrome but we're determined.

BFP #4! - 1/

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Mon, 01-04-2010 - 1:08pm

Ha, it sounds like our friends are two peas in a pod!


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Mon, 01-04-2010 - 10:45am
Good luck and know we are always here for support.

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Mon, 01-04-2010 - 10:33am
Thanks, I think I may have to address it gently when I am in a state of mind where I can be calm and unemotional about it. I am worried about sounding selfish but I need to take care of myself in this matter.

 

Kelly

I'm 38, DH is 42 and we are TTC #1. We've had 3 unexplained miscarriages and a bout with Asherman's Syndrome but we're determined.

BFP #4! - 1/
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Mon, 01-04-2010 - 9:20am

HUGS my big sweetie!

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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 7:53pm

Hi ladies!


Sorry to butt in on your conversation... I totally understand the feeling.

~ Meron born 12-09-11 after 3 1/2 years of TTC, IUIs and IVF.
~ #2 on the way(!) and due 06-06-13.

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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 7:37am
Thanks Jess! That is crazy that someone is out announcing her pg to people at 5 weeks. I don't blame you for walking away. I can imagine that if I ever do have a successful pregnancy I will probably still worry the entire time too. And then probably even more once the child is here!

 

Kelly

I'm 38, DH is 42 and we are TTC #1. We've had 3 unexplained miscarriages and a bout with Asherman's Syndrome but we're determined.

BFP #4! - 1/
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Sat, 01-02-2010 - 11:34pm
(((((HUGS))))) Kelly.
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Sat, 01-02-2010 - 7:31am

That doesn't sound corny at all, I would totally do the same thing. Just think though, what is your princess friend going to do when she gets old and wrinkly... play the ugly stepmother to Cinderella? I don't care what she looks like, you are one of the most beautiful people I've ever known!

And your princess friend kind of sounds just like mine. She seems to have this perfect life that everything just goes right on. She works part time from home which is a joke, but really is the best of both worlds of mommyhood and career. She is teeny tiny skinny (eats whatever she wants too) and looks adorable pg, had a perfect pg and gave birth on her due date last time... it is just nauseating! The other night her DH commented that she was busy "creating the next generation of *surname*'s" and I almost had to leave the table. I really don't think my DH feels this way, but it really makes me feel so insuperior and like a failure as a wife to him.

 

Kelly

I'm 38, DH is 42 and we are TTC #1. We've had 3 unexplained miscarriages and a bout with Asherman's Syndrome but we're determined.

BFP #4! - 1/
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Fri, 01-01-2010 - 9:35pm

Thank you Kelly, I really want to see that so much for you too.


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Fri, 01-01-2010 - 7:36pm

Thanks Grace, it helps me to know that I'm not the only one in my jealousy. Ugh a Disney Princess!

I hope you and your DH's 2010 is a perfect year with the blessing of a healthy happy little one come August (as I know there will be:)

 

Kelly

I'm 38, DH is 42 and we are TTC #1. We've had 3 unexplained miscarriages and a bout with Asherman's Syndrome but we're determined.

BFP #4! - 1/

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