Do you tend to be more open about infertility?

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Do you tend to be more open about infertility?
Fri, 12-09-2011 - 2:05pm

I just read an article that said that women tend to be more open about infertility than men, especially if the man perceives that others will think he's at fault for their infertility issues:

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Fri, 12-09-2011 - 10:32pm

DH and I just had a "discussion" about this the other night.

Britty  & DH (both 30) TTC since late 2008

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Sat, 12-10-2011 - 4:09pm
My DH and I are both closed books. However that does not just mean IF, its everything. I am a big bottler of feelings and pretty much everything. It took us months to even tell my family and for the most part people do not know about our struggles.

However I do come here and have to say having you ladies is a HUGE relief. This is pretty much the only place I feel comfortable sharing.


"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella

TTC since April 2009

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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 4:44pm
DH and I are both pretty open about it. Pretty much all of our family and friends know what we're going through. I've been very vocal my whole life about wanting kids. Since I was a kid myself, I have always been very open with everyone that I couldn't wait to be a mom. Little did I know the struggle I would have someday.
DH gives a more "cliff notes" version of the story I'd have to say. I'm more specific about the process and stuff, but only with my close family and friends. In the past year or so, people have stopped asking us about how we're doing with building our family. I think it's getting to the point where it's been so long that people think we probably won't ever have a baby, so they don't want to upset us by bringing it up. At least that what my over-active mind

Jemma (35) and DH, (37). Married October 13, 2007 and TTCing since April 2008. Dealing with PCOS, swollen tubes, and also MFI. Committing myself to getting healthy and losing weight in preparation for IVF later in 2012.

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Tue, 12-13-2011 - 4:21pm
I'm usually pretty private when we were trying on our own i kept it quiet however as more and more things didn't work I blew the lid on it I was tired of people acting like I was nuts. Plus I went in to a lot of detail about treatment bc it really knocked me on my butt I needed people to understand I wasn't just being a baby and that they had no idea what this was like I don't think Mu DH ever told anyone but his parents