Does your SO understand?

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Does your SO understand?
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Thu, 01-30-2014 - 9:42am

Does your partner understand the roller coaster of emotions you go through each month?  How do they do at showing their support?

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Registered: 11-05-2014
Wed, 11-05-2014 - 4:15pm

I feel like I can't communicate my emotions and not being able to concieve with my husband as well as I would like.  When I try to talk to him and make suggestions on how to improve things, he just gets defensive.  I try to tell him that I'm not blaming him, but he tells me that maybe things would be better if I wouldn't fight with him about little things, or stuff like that.  So then I feel like he is blaming me, then I get upset and it winds up being a big fight.  He also tries to tell me to not worry about it and not stress and that I make it worse, and that's the last thing I want to hear.  I hear that from everyone else, I don't want to hear that from him.  He says he is willing to do whatever it takes to get us a baby, and I believe him, but I feel like I have to do all the suggesting, all the research, etc.  He says he doesn't care if I do the OPKs, but he doesn't want the pressure of knowing cause he says it ruins the sex for him cause it's too much pressure.  But my husband has chronic pain issues and sometimes we can go a whole month with no sex because of his pain, so I like doing the tests and knowing the best time and letting him know so we can make the best of it.  I too would like suggestions of how to talk to him about it without fighting.

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Registered: 10-03-2014
Fri, 10-03-2014 - 8:59pm

I'd be very interested in this too. We're just starting this process and have gotten very discouraging news after our 2nd round of tests. I feel like my husband and I aren't connecting the way we should be. Advice on ways I could better support him and better communicate my needs would be VERY welcome. Thanks all...