Everyone's pregnant but me!

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Everyone's pregnant but me!
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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 8:22pm

Hi, This is my first time posting to a board of any kind.  I just need a place to vent and hear from people in similar situations!


I'm 33 and have been happily married for 6 years.  We've been ttc for over 3 years now without success.  We're seeing a specialist (post-coital test tomorrow, fun fun!) and so far they can find nothing wrong.  My husband's count was a little low but he's made some changes and it's fine now.  I've been taking femara to ensure I'm producing a mature, healthy egg. 


The hardest part of this (and I'm sure many of you will agree) is what this does to us emotionally.  And now it seems like everyone is pregnant but me!  I know, I know...of course it seems that way when you're ttc but seriously, 5 of my friends are pregnant right now and 2 of them just had babies.  Most of these women are in my girls' night out group and I just hate going now.  I don't talk to any of them (except my sis) about what is going on...dh and I have agreed to keep it between us.  I went to girls night out last week and cried all the way home and woke up the next morning crying.  I am happy for all these women, of course!  But this last one to announce is three years younger than me and hasn't even been married a year!  My best friend from college always said she didn't want kids, decided in August she did, and was pregnant in two months!  It just seems so completely unfair...I've had a girl's name picked out since junior high.  I guess I'm just at the point that I either really want to get pregnant or be told we can't have kids so we can deal with it and look at other options. 


How do you get to the point of not being jealous and being able to socialize?  I'm the only married woman in our group who does not have children or isn't pregnant.  I'd love any advice any of you can give.  I shamefully admit that at times I feel jealous and I hate feeling that way.  Thanks for listening...

 

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Registered: 01-12-2008
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 12:38am

Hi, abcs24!

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Registered: 07-28-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 11:43am
I am reading A Few Good Eggs now and it is great! It's easy to understand, comforting, entertaining and informative.
   

                              

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Registered: 07-28-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 5:58pm

hi there- i totally agree with everything you said and people not knowing what others situations are.

   

                              

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 7:55pm

You know, I have envisioned myself doing exactly what you did with your uncle a million times!

 

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Registered: 01-12-2008
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 8:10pm

Hi, Teachy!

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 8:16pm

I guess it would be hard to get out of a baby shower at work!

 

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Registered: 07-28-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 8:43pm
hey, stilltryin- i am reading the book tonight- i'm on chapter 17, the man show.
   

                              

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Registered: 01-12-2008
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 12:02am

Hi, Teachy!

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Registered: 01-23-2008
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 10:50am

Hello all! I've been married to my DH

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Registered: 07-28-2007
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 6:10pm
hi ncaunt- you are too funny! you had me laughing at your post! I'm with you on everything you said!!! Let me know if the turkey baster method is successful :) haha

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