A friend's unplanned pregnancy
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| Mon, 11-26-2007 - 1:15pm |
I'm sure this has been discussed on here before, but I found out last week that a friend of mine is expecting. She and her boyfriend were not planning this, but they're excited. She lives in another state and when she suspected she was pregnant, she told me. She got a test and I sat with her on the phone while she took it, talked with her while she freaked out when it was positive, talked her through what she was going to say to her boyfriend and her parents. Now all the drama is over and everyone's excited.
A few close friends have asked me how I'm doing, and here's the weird part - I'm basically fine. I felt a twinge when she said the test was positive, but I keep expecting to kind of fall apart, and I'm just not. I can't help but wonder if this means I've given up. I don't think it does because I don't think I have. I'm just finding it odd that I'm not more upset.
I can't even be sure why I'm posting this. I guess I just wanted to put it out there in case anyone has any thoughts.

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Wow - I hope you're wrong about that. I have been to showers for adopted babies and they're wonderful. I've seen adoptive parents put announcements in the newspaper, their church bulletin, whatever. That is as much your child as if you'd given birth to him/her - I say celebrate. That's what we're going to do if (when?) we adopt.
Having said that, I totally agree with you about baby showers. They've started having them at my office and I never go. I always send the mom-to-be a little something and a note that says "Sorry I couldn't make it to your shower." I tried to go a few times and always ended up having to leave the room before I started crying. I just can handle pacifiers and little booties.
Christy the Writer
TTC #1 for 3 years
Married to Guy for 5 years
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Christy the Writer
TTC #1 for 3 years
Married to Guy for 5 years
I've never been to an adoption shower before, I just don't think any of our friends or family would host one for us either. That's okay, I will just not buy them christmas/birthday gifts for that year, and spend that money on our child instead.
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