I'm here asking advice.
First of all, thank you for being so considerate to you guests.
~ Meron born 12-09-11 after 3 1/2 years of TTC, IUIs and IVF.~ #2 on the way(!) and due 06-06-13.
I have to say that I too appreciate the fact you are considerate over your TTC friends. It can be very hard because IF already makes you feel so isolated and then it tends to be hard to be around others who have children.
I think you are doing a fantastic job by trying not to linger on the talk of children too long. Sadly the sadness (at least for myself) comes in waves so one day I could love the idea of going to see family and friends if they have kids only to feel completely different the next day.
I guess the only other advice I can give is to help keep those people busy too. If you need help in the kitchen or setting things up ask them if they want to help. Sometimes keeping busy and not focusing on children is a blessing. When I first went to visit my sister and my new born niece my sister and mom would ask me to do things like help them set the table. It seems small but sometimes the distractions help make the lulls a little better.
I wish there were more people out there with the consideration you have.
"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella
TTC since April 2009
Thank you both for your advice.
What a thoughtful question.
Perhaps you have
Me: 39, DH: 43
TTC for 5 years . 1 Ectopic PG at 8 wee
Jemma (35) and DH, (37). Married October 13, 2007 and TTCing since April 2008. Dealing with PCOS, swollen tubes, and also MFI. Committing myself to getting healthy and losing weight in preparation for IVF later in 2012.
also a great idea - thank you!