How do you feel about The Duggars?

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How do you feel about The Duggars?
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Mon, 11-14-2011 - 12:17pm

I know this is so last week, but I'm just wondering how you all feel about the Duggar family and their recent announcement that they are expecting their 20th child?

Jemma (35) and DH, (37). Married October 13, 2007 and TTCing since April 2008. Dealing with PCOS, swollen tubes, and also MFI. Committing myself to getting healthy and losing weight in preparation for IVF later in 2012.

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Tue, 11-15-2011 - 12:13pm
I have mixed feelings about them. Being the youngest in a large family, I really feel for their older girls because I know from my own experience that it's the girls raising them, not the parents. Although they are surrounded by family, I think they forget about the importance of the parent/child bond. I spent the majority of time with my siblings, I don't have too many memories of one on one with parents. On the flip side though, it taught me to be independent. That's what I don't see happening with their kids, I don't see them being able to live their own lives when they are adults, Maybe they'll be happy with the lifestyle, I just know it wouldn't suit me.

The one thing I really want to see is her getting upset at Jim-Bob or the kids. It's just unnatural to be that happy and sweet all the time ;) Maybe that's the key though, they do seem to have the right temperament for that many kids. I do wish they would spread their luck around!

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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 11:25am
Although on a personal level I am certainly jealous that she can come by so easily something I struggle for.
However I also respect her. It is not like she was trying for another kid or doing crazy infertility treatments like Octomom (who I DEFINITELY have a problem with).
While there is certainly a danger based on her age and previous birth there is a risk for anyone. There is a risk doing IF treatments, however I would really hate if someone told me not to. I figure she is not naive and neither is her family. They understand the risks and accept them. Personally I wish I could have more of their outlook at times.
To each their own!

Dixie

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Mon, 11-21-2011 - 10:46am
I think she is making an unhealthy choice for herself and the child. The last one was severely preemie and it is rumored she had HELLP syndrome which Almost always repeats itself. HELLP can quickly kill her and the child. I understand that her religion tells her she must have children by the will of god (GOOGLE Quiverful, it will make you shudder), but, seriously, when the mothers life is at risk enough is enough.
When is she going to stop? When she is dead and it is the older ones permanently raising the family? Then Jimbo can just remarry a 20 year old and start over.
But, apparently I am biased... :)
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Fri, 12-09-2011 - 1:39pm

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Fri, 12-09-2011 - 1:52pm
I did see. That is so devistating. Although none of my miscarriages were when my babies were that far along it is still such a tragic loss. No matter my feelings on their family size it is not anything I would wish on anyone.

Dixie

"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella

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Fri, 12-09-2011 - 1:54pm
I totally agree with you, I feel really bad for them.

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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 4:36pm
I agree with you ladies. A miscarriage is devasting no matter how many kids you already have. My mom had a miscarriage when I was a senior in high school and it would have been her 5th. She still thinks about that baby often and she had a really hard time when it happened. My mom was 8 weeks along at the time, and I think in Michele Duggar's case she was at the point where they would find out the gender. I have to think that would be even more devastating because once you get into your 2nd trimester you think you're pretty safe. I heard today they found out she was a girl and named her. So sad...

Jemma (35) and DH, (37). Married October 13, 2007 and TTCing since April 2008. Dealing with PCOS, swollen tubes, and also MFI. Committing myself to getting healthy and losing weight in preparation for IVF later in 2012.

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Wed, 12-14-2011 - 11:37pm
I agree that a miscarriage that late really is upsetting. I am almost glad I am way further in my pregnancy as hearing about her having a late miscarriage (although I know her risks are different then most) would have made me SO paranoid.

This like that are just part of my long list of why questions I have when I finally meet God.

Dixie

"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella

TTC since April 2009