Infertility struggles

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Registered: 01-15-2013
Infertility struggles
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Thu, 01-09-2014 - 10:49pm

I'm 30 years old and my husband and I have tried for 6 years to conceive. I have pcos which has posed some very annoying complications. My husband had a semen analysis last January which resulted in only 17% normal sperm and low volume. The Dr wasn't sure if it was accurate so they suggested a second test be done. I've used Clomid but that was before being diagnosed with pcos. I did 5 rounds with no success. I currently take 2000 mg of metformin every day as well as dexamethasone every other day for congenital adrenal hyperplasia. I have watched so many around me succeed where I have failed. I don't discuss it much anymore because I don't see the use. My husband decided a few years ago we needed to hold off persuing serious help with our fertility issues because he didn't feel financially ready. A couple months ago he finally stated he was ready to actively start again but I'm more worried it is too little too late. I was warned after thirty it would be more complicated. Every month I hope to ovulate without help but every month nothing happens. Once my husband decided he was ready I was excited to get the ball rolling only to find out my obgyn would give me Clomid again. Instead, she ordered me an HSG test which will be done next Friday. She bluntly stated if the test showed my tubes were blocked I was screwed. I hope the hsg shows all is clear so we can start something to help me ovulate. So that's my struggle. Day in and day out I hear stop trying and it will happen or when it's your time you will know. SERIOUSLY!!! Just need to vent.. 

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Registered: 11-05-2006
Sat, 01-11-2014 - 6:27pm
Hey, it had been a long time since I was on here. I can totally sympathize with you. People told me all the time that if we would just stop trying we would get pregnant, really.... I don't ovulate so not sure how that would be happening. We were able to get pregnant, but it was not easy and we always thought we would have more than one child, but that does not seem to be happening for us. Our daughter is about to turn 5 and we tried three rounds of clomid about 2 years ago and were about to do further testing when we had some issues develop that put us on hold. Now I wonder if we should even both trying anymore, it would take a while to get all the testing out of the way and then it would take a while to get pregnant, our children would be 6 + years apart. Not the life I pictures. I try to just be thankful that I was able to have one. I hope it all works out for you. Set those people straight. I really found that to be helpful and it also stopped some of the commenting. I would just say to them no, it will not happen when we stop trying because I do not ovulate. Talk about making someone put their foot in their mouth. Anyway best of luck.
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Registered: 11-05-2006
Sat, 01-11-2014 - 6:27pm
Hey, it had been a long time since I was on here. I can totally sympathize with you. People told me all the time that if we would just stop trying we would get pregnant, really.... I don't ovulate so not sure how that would be happening. We were able to get pregnant, but it was not easy and we always thought we would have more than one child, but that does not seem to be happening for us. Our daughter is about to turn 5 and we tried three rounds of clomid about 2 years ago and were about to do further testing when we had some issues develop that put us on hold. Now I wonder if we should even both trying anymore, it would take a while to get all the testing out of the way and then it would take a while to get pregnant, our children would be 6 + years apart. Not the life I pictures. I try to just be thankful that I was able to have one. I hope it all works out for you. Set those people straight. I really found that to be helpful and it also stopped some of the commenting. I would just say to them no, it will not happen when we stop trying because I do not ovulate. Talk about making someone put their foot in their mouth. Anyway best of luck.
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Registered: 11-05-2006
Sat, 01-11-2014 - 6:28pm
Hey, it had been a long time since I was on here. I can totally sympathize with you. People told me all the time that if we would just stop trying we would get pregnant, really.... I don't ovulate so not sure how that would be happening. We were able to get pregnant, but it was not easy and we always thought we would have more than one child, but that does not seem to be happening for us. Our daughter is about to turn 5 and we tried three rounds of clomid about 2 years ago and were about to do further testing when we had some issues develop that put us on hold. Now I wonder if we should even both trying anymore, it would take a while to get all the testing out of the way and then it would take a while to get pregnant, our children would be 6 + years apart. Not the life I pictures. I try to just be thankful that I was able to have one. I hope it all works out for you. Set those people straight. I really found that to be helpful and it also stopped some of the commenting. I would just say to them no, it will not happen when we stop trying because I do not ovulate. Talk about making someone put their foot in their mouth. Anyway best of luck.
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Registered: 01-22-2014
Wed, 01-22-2014 - 3:57pm

So sorry its been so hard. People telling you "It will happen when its meant to" is the worst. they have no idea the struggle people dealing with infertility  go through. It is so fustrating, and it doesnt make us feel like they are being at all supportive! And doctors arent much better. They dont seem to be all that sensitivet to it either. (or at least in my expierence). I hope your test goes well. HSG is where they dye your tubes right? 

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Registered: 12-05-2007
Mon, 02-17-2014 - 12:17am

I hate it when people just make a quick comment......as they just don't understand.  I am so sorry that you are going through this.  I"ve been down your road.  My tubes are blocked and with surgery they became unblocked for 2 weeks.  I was never able to concevie and have a baby.  I had one misscarriage.  So I sit here with blocked tubes and no babies I do understand.  It sure is hard on the heart to go through this.  I wish you the best.  Hopefully you will have better luck than me.......And no I can't have a baby as I am in the beggining stages of menopause.

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Registered: 03-07-2005
Thu, 03-27-2014 - 4:26pm

I hear you - for sure. The struggle to conceive overtook our lives in every way. I could barely stand to even try any more because the roller coaster each month was just too terrible. Our issue was MFI - low counts all around. 17% is not out of the question for IUI success - we were under 10% at the time we were trying. If DH is willing, get him tested again and then off to see a doc too, urologist or other - there are some things that might help in that dept, but each situation is so different, so hard to say (and seems to be even more taboo to talk about and less info on in my experience). Anyway -since  you posted in January - I am guessing your HSG is done? How did it go? Hope it was easy for you - what did they say about the tubes? All hope is not lost if tubes are blocked - we ended up with IVF success. I was 34 at the time. We tried for 2 and a half years, 5 IUI's, DH surgery for varicocele's, clomid and....decided to go for the IVF. Well, hope the last couple of months have been easier for you or have provided more information to help determine a pathway for you.

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Registered: 03-31-2014
Mon, 03-31-2014 - 9:58am

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