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Sun, 11-27-2011 - 6:07pm

Hello everyone!

My name is Leslie and this is my first time posting on this type of forum. I am 34 and have been married for 16 years. My husband and I decided to wait to have kids. About 3 years ago we decided it was time. I have been diagnosed with endometriosis, but my RE doesn't seem to think that is my problem. Everything is always "Unexplained Infertility." Everyone around me has kids or is pregnant and I am SO frustrated. I have done 5 IUI treatments and nothing. My husband is convinced that I am getting pregnant, but that I want it so badly I am stressing myself out and miscarrying before I even know it. Everyone around me is telling me it will happen when it happens, well, that doesn't help me at all. I just don't know where to go from here. My husband and I have discussed IVF and neither of us wants to go quite that far. I feel so lost.

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Mon, 11-28-2011 - 3:57am
First off I am so sorry you find yourself here. One of the worst things about IF is that it seems the moment you can't get pregnant everyone else can.
I don't have endo but I know for me I had trouble with the attachment part. I had three early miscarriages/chemical pregnancies. My RE actually did a hysteroscopy with a d&c after my last chemical pregnancy. She said sometimes going in and doing that can stimulate your body to grab on to the fertilized egg better. Perhaps that is something to consider. Either way I wish you much luck and baby dust.

Dixie

"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella

TTC since April 2009

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Mon, 11-28-2011 - 2:44pm

Hi Leslie, welcome to the board!

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Mon, 11-28-2011 - 10:19pm

Melissa,

My RE has run all the hormonal tests he could run. I have also had a laporoscopy to clear out the endo. He says my tubes are clear, ovaries are fine, and I am ovulating. I have no idea where to go from here. My husband and I have been on a hiatus since he has been deployed to Kuwait with the Army. Since then,

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Mon, 11-28-2011 - 10:20pm

Thank you for the support! It's nice to know there is hope and support out there!

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Tue, 11-29-2011 - 12:21pm
Hi Leslie,
Sorry you are dealing with this...IF is definitely not for wimps! I understand how frustrating it is, in fact, all of us totally understand. We all have had our struggles and know what it's like to feel so lost when everyone else in the world seems to be pregnant or have kids. Acupunture may be worth considering. I have heard from lots of people that they felt it really helped with their IF treatments. I would absolutely try it if it weren't so darn expensive!
This is a great board with some awesome ladies that are always here to listen to you. Please keep us posted with whatever you decide to do and GOOD LUCK!!

Jemma (35) and DH, (37). Married October 13, 2007 and TTCing since April 2008. Dealing with PCOS, swollen tubes, and also MFI. Committing myself to getting healthy and losing weight in preparation for IVF later in 2012.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 11-29-2011 - 3:09pm

I think seeing the practitioner is a good idea, I've seen some members having luck with doing that.

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Sun, 12-11-2011 - 2:56am
Hi Everyone,
I have endometriosis and my husband and I have been trying for six years since we were married in 2005. I have had a laparoscopy to remove an endometrioma from my right ovary and have been getting acupuncture treatments since 2007. I had a hysterosonogram and my tubes and uterus are clear. During the lap the doctor found adhesions tethering both my ovaries to my pelvic side wall. He blamed it on the endo. I have also been without a permanent job since I lost mine in February 2009 with the economic collapse. Needless to say I understand what you are going through. Most of my friends and both of my siblings have babies who are growing quickly. It is very heartbreaking to sit by and watch their lives progress and wonder why I am seemingly being left behind. I got a puppy recently and she has definitely given me something to focus on but the baby situation doesn't go away. This is the first time I've posted on a forum or reached out in this way. I'm starting to feel a bit numb and that scares me. I'm thinking about adoption now but my husband is worried about the cost. It seems really unfair that money should be hanging over us even in such a personal matter as fertility. I'm not sure what advice to give except to get support from the people who live you and try not to let it interfere with your marriage. Find ways to keep the joy between you and find pleasure in other things. Stay busy. I decided to go back to get my Masters and I'm involved in classical singing. In the summer I'm a mad gardener. Try to turn it into an opportunity to do the things you didnt get to finish when you were younger. Hope that helps.

Amy
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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 1:22pm
Hi Amy, I'm glad you found the board, but sorry that you are suffering from infertility. It is unfair that it costs so much money to have have a child :( I hope that you'll find lots of support on here, it can really help to talk to other women who are struggling in the same way. ((HUGS)))