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Sat, 11-17-2007 - 5:24pm

Hi everyone I am new to this board as well. I am a 33 year old teacher and we have two wonderful boys by adoption, ages six and seven. We are now working with a fertility doctor trying to have our third child-would be the first bio child for both of us.


Look forward to hearing about everyones journey


Amy aka Rodney and Davy's Mama

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In reply to: rodsmommy
Sat, 11-17-2007 - 10:48pm

Hello! Welcome! I am a 34 year old teacher, too. What grade do you teach? How long have you been married? That's awesome that you adopted. I am not past looking into that option if we don't conceive eventually. I would love to feel a baby growing inside of me and have him or her look like us but it's not happening, so I feel I need to broaden my options. I only got married last year, but have been with my husband for 8 years. I really wish we had started trying earlier... I went off the pill in Jan. We moved back to Alaska in August & so once I was home, started seeing a specialist here. I've done 2 rounds of Clomid, plus lots of bloodwork and a hystersalpingogram. They have found nothing wrong with either of us. Oh, and I had my first IUI (insemination) last week. So now we wait.

Best of luck to you and your husband! I come to this board almost every day, just to feel like I'm not alone. This is so hard, and I only find comfort in communicating with people who know what it feels like to go though this. Keep in touch with all of us! And don't feel shy about asking questions. A lot of this is easier to deal with if you know what's coming.

Take care,
Kim

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In reply to: rodsmommy
Sat, 11-17-2007 - 11:01pm

Thanks! I am a teacher for medically fragile kids, and my room has three to six year olds. My kids are in wheelchairs, non verbal etc. I love my students! We have lots of cool things going on like a swim program and lots of feild trips.


Adoption is awesome and I highly recommend it :) We got Rodney when he was two and Davy when he was four. I love my boys, but I do like you have the desire to feel a child growing inside me. That feeling intensifies as I get older and know that I am only going to be fertile for so many years. So we are trying now and if it doesn't happen, we will deal with that as well.


Infertility is a painful thing and women definately need support from one another. I have been married for 7 years and love my husband, kids and life, but now and then, like during a baby shower, that old painful feeling comes up :( On Friday I had a fellow teacher announce she was expecting and another co workers wife is expecting, which brought that old hurtful feeling back, even though I was happy for them at the same time.


Amy aka Rodney and Davy's Mama

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In reply to: rodsmommy
Sun, 11-18-2007 - 2:20pm

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Hello Amy!


Welcome to IF Support! Well, don't you have a lovely story to share.

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In reply to: rodsmommy
Sun, 11-18-2007 - 6:03pm

Thanks! I know what you mean about focusing on one or the other, when we found out we were infertile we threw ourselves into adoption full force, with support groups and organizations and whatnot, and didn't feel the need to do anything about my infertility. I didn't feel moved to try to have a bio child until this year, and I think that is because I am 33 now and I realize my time for that is limited. We decided we might as well have the doctor work with us, tell us what our chances our, because we don't want to look back someday and have regrets that we did not pursue this when we had the chance.


Amy aka Rodney and Davy's Mama

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In reply to: rodsmommy
Mon, 11-19-2007 - 2:24pm

Hi Amy,

Welcome and good luck with your fertility treatments. That's so wonderful that you adopted! You must love having your boys so much. I always think if we already had a child (either biological or adopted) that this whole process would be so much easier, but maybe that's not the case. Right now there's just this empty hole in our lives since we had always thought we'd be parents by now.

My hubby and I are 29 and have been trying to conceive our first child for a year and a half. I have a short luteal phase so I am taking Clomid and progesterone support to fix it, and hubby has very low morphology (his sperm are shaped funny) so we are doing IUIs to help them get closer to my eggs. I don't know what types of treatments you're trying, but I've done 3 IUIs so I have a bit of experience with them!

Looking forward to getting to know you,
Reba


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In reply to: rodsmommy
Mon, 11-19-2007 - 6:36pm

Hi Reba!


I think you are right in that waiting for a fertility treatment to work or an adoption is much harder if you do not have children. Waiting to adopt my first son was pure agony! I harrassed our caseworker weekly, became upset and depressed when the paperwork went slowly, etc. Adopting my second son was not so hard of a wait, because I was already a mom and had a child to enjoy.


Right now I am not too anxious about the fertility treatments, but I felt at 33 I should not wait much longer. So far I have only done basic things like temperature charting, having the HSG (dye shot through my tubes) and my next appointment isnt until after Christmas. I make my appointments far apart so we have time to pay the credit card off between each time :)


Amy aka Rodney and Davy's Mama