Still trying to hopeful

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Registered: 02-11-2010
Still trying to hopeful
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 10:38pm
Me and my DH have been TTC for about two years now. We just finished our first IVF with no good output. We have had 3 failed IUI and now the failed IVF. Any suggestions on trying to keep things positive and how long should you be upset about negative results.
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Registered: 10-05-2006
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 11:35pm

I am sorry that you don't have your BFP yet. It really sucks when you want it so bad and waiting so long.

----PG and MC mentioned-----

I have a friend who is 4 months PG and she went through a lot to get there. She did have a couple IUI's and an IVF that came back BFN. She ended up having surgery for endo. and she got pregnant on her 2nd IVF. Our babies would have only been a few months apart but I lost mine. Normally I am sad seeing other PG women but I am so happy for her because of the struggles she went through.

Have faith that you will get your BFP!

TTC 1st child since 2006
June 16, 2010: IUI w/ Femara BFP (Ectopic - Methotrexate shot) RE sidelined me until November cycle for next IUI :(

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Registered: 08-20-2009
Sat, 07-31-2010 - 11:38am

Hi Vickie- I am sorry you are struggling with IF, but glad you found this board. It is full of supportive and knowledgeable women. I hope that your stay with us is short but that you get some encouragement. Many of these women have struggled a long time and through countless procedures and surgeries, so perhaps their stories of achieved pregnancies can strengthen your faith that it can happen for you. The emotional toll of TTC with IF is so intense and all-encompassing. I'm sorry you are hurting right now. Do you have a plan as to how to proceed next? That seems to help a lot of women dust themselves off and try, try again!

Baby dust to you!


Lilypie Maternity tickers

May Baby

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Registered: 07-21-2010
Sat, 07-31-2010 - 7:26pm

Vickie I am sorry to hear that you have to join us. It is hard every time no matter how many you have seen.

I always go by the rule of thumb let yourself have those emotions. Let yourself be sad when you feel it. Allowing yourself to have those emotions lets you process it in a healthy way. I have found bottling it up tends to make it all spill out at very awkward times.

I also have found on a personal level journaling helps. The girls here are such wonderful support as well so do not hesitate to let it all out here.


"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella

M/C November 2009

Metformin December 2009

Clomid #1 50mg April 2010 = no O :-(

Clomid #2 100mg May 2010 = BFN

Clomid #3 150mg July 2010





"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella

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Registered: 06-06-2010
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 11:31pm

Sorry to hear your troubles but totally understand. I too have had 3 IUI's but had 2 failed IVF's. One just recently. It's hard, but a loving, caring, and understanding DH helps me a ton. I also agree that that you just have to feel the emotions and let the tears come if they are trying.

***TTC since 2005. *In fertility treatments since 2007. *Clomid tx's X 4 with 3 of them BFN and 1 that I had 2 false BFP's before the official BFN. * 2009- IUI X3 with all 3 BFN's. *2010- 2 IVF's with both BFN's. * Taking break to pay off IVF bills unti
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Registered: 06-22-2010
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 10:30am

I am so sorry for all of the BFNs that you have experienced on your IF journey.

Kelly (31) DH (32) TTC Since June 2009 August 2007 - Myomectomy - removed large fibroid on back of uterus January 2010 - HSG reveals "possible" blocked left tube March 2010 - First RE visit (PCOS secondary to CAH diagnosed) April 2010 - October 2010