Stress?

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Registered: 03-23-2012
Stress?
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Sat, 12-01-2012 - 10:39am

Hi all!

I was just wondering how some of you deal with the stress of infertility.  I'm looking for answers from anybody going through this, but especially those of you who have been dealing with it for years.  My DH and I are in our third year of TTC, and it is so stressful.  This might sound unbelieveable, but we rarely fight about anything - except TTC.  I am very young and none of my friends have even begun to think about having kids, so I don't feel like I have any friends to talk to about it.  Since DH is going through the same thing I am, I thought I could vent to him, or cry every once in awhile.  (Okay, more like 2-3 times a week.)  He feels overwhelmed because we are struggling with male infertility, so he feels like I am complaining about him or yelling at him for something he did wrong.  This is especially true since we think a big part of the problem is the vasectomy he had thirteen years ago.  He feels like I am blaming him, when I am really just looking for reassurance and comfort.

Just looking for a little bit of advice on how those of you out there are getting through this and some suggestions for dealing with the stress.

Thanks!

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Registered: 10-06-2012
In reply to: erinb09
Sun, 12-02-2012 - 2:59pm

Hey, I think this issue is hard on the guys because they have the tendency to want to fix things and this is out of anyone's control. We have been TTC for 3 1/2  years and I can't say that we've mastered dealing with stress by any means, but personally I feel better about the situation when I have a plan in place.  We've been discussing our plan for IVF and knowing that we're both in agreement to get started with that soon gives me some comfort and hope. 

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Registered: 10-26-2005
In reply to: erinb09
Mon, 12-03-2012 - 12:37pm

I'm sorry you are having to go through this. There is no easy way to deal with infertility. I struggled with Infertility for 10 years before I was blessed. I can't say that I mastered dealing with the stress as more excepting the fate that was dealt to me. There were days that I wanted to throw in the towel and just give up. There were days I was so angry with God that he would make we go through this, and there were the days that I just cried my eyes out.  Infertility is a stress in its own category. I dealt with both factors in trying to get pregnant. I have fertility issues and my DH ended up having issues after a medication he had to take when he became ill. Having a plan helps some with the stress since you have direction. Coming here helped a lot. These ladies are wonderful to vent to and they understand the stress, frustration, and pain. Keeping yourself busy helps too since you are not constantly thinking about having a baby. I hope that just hearing some of our stories will help you in knowing you are not alone. Having a place to come to and get things off your chest will help you. I wish you luck and hope your journey ends soon.

Me ~ 31  DH ~ 33  TTC #1 since August 2002. Dealing with mild Endo, PCOS, D