Waiting for the right time

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Registered: 12-05-2012
Waiting for the right time
Wed, 12-05-2012 - 8:12pm

I've been trying for almost a year and I know to some it may not seem like that long.  But coming from a family where the women seem to have no problem getting pregnant it worries me.  Ever since I was young I always said that I wanted to do it the right way, marriage-> baby.  I'm only 26 years old, it's not like I'm that old and I don't think it should be taking this long.  I know things like this take time but everyone makes it seem so easy, especially the teenagers that get pregnant.  I know I shouldn't but I get depressed and even a little jealous when I see other women pregnant.  About 2 months ago, I was almost a month late and I was sure I was pregnant and when I took the pregnancy test and it was negative my whole world fell apart.  All of a sudden everything changed. Trying to conceive went from being fun and exciting to scary and sad.  

Last month I was at work when all of a sudden I had a sharp pain in my lower abdomen, so sharp it made me vomit.  By the end of the night the pain had spread throughout my body and I ended up going to the ER.  I thought I was having an ectopic pregnancy but it turned out I had a large cyst of my ovary burst.  At my follow up with my gyno, she checked everything she could and couldn't find a reason why I wasn't conceiving. So now, I'm left with this question... What do I do now?

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Registered: 07-18-2009
Fri, 12-07-2012 - 10:46pm

You're in' the right place for support!  If you're feeling uncomfortable about the amount of time it is taking, it's always better to get checked out sooner than later.  Some simple blood tests can do a basic workup to see if there is a major issue.  Ask your ob/gyn or primary dr. to run a basic fertility workup for you which is typically done on Day 2/3 of your cycle (FSH, AMH, prolactin, estradiol, LH) and then 7 days after you ovulate (use an over the counter ovulation predictor kit) get a progesterone blood test.  This numbers will tell you whether to jump right into a specialist or give it some more time.  Lots of luck to you!   

Me (36) DH (38)- me-unexplained IF/hypothyroid -DH-counts good, but volume is low; Married in 2006, off birth control pill. Started officially trying in March of 2009.
2 rounds clomid/ovidrel 2009, 1 round femara/iui, 2010, 2 rounds follistim/iui 2010. Weight loss surgery 2011.  Back to new RE 2012: HSG normal, AMH 0.43= DOR; IVF with microdose flare protocol in February 2013.  

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 12-12-2012 - 1:02pm
Don't be hard on yourself for feeling jealous or depressed, this is a very emotionally tolling journey that doesn't always put you in the best frame of mind. It's very normal to feel this way, getting pregnant shouldn't be this hard. Are you using any methods to track your cycle or to see if you are ovulating? Jezebel57 had a great suggestion with getting a basic workup done, you might find out what's causing you to not get pregnant.