Wife working through male infertility.

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Registered: 10-04-2013
Wife working through male infertility.
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Fri, 10-04-2013 - 11:30pm

Hello, I just joined for the first time. My husband and I have not been able to conceive as the result of a motorcycle accident my husband was in 5 years ago. We tried on our own for awhile and when that didn't work, we started seeing doctors. This has been going on for about 4 years now and we are at the final step to try to have a kid that is biologically his. He has a test scheduled at the end of the month that will tell us if IVF will be a possibility. Basically, due to trauma to the area, he is not producing enough sperm. We are also trying to get the auto insurance to cover the cost. My husband was hit by a drunk driver. It's very frustrating that auto insurance is possibly going to deny the IVF because the see it as a procedure for me. I'm really hoping insurance will come through but there is not a lot of legal precedent for them to pay for this. I'm trying to stay positive as they have not given us an absolute no yet. Hopefully it works out. If not, we will begin the search for a donor... Have any of you gone that route?

I'm also struggling with how to deal with others about our issues. I have another friend dealing with infertility as well so it's nice to have someone to speak to about what I'm going through. It upsets me though that my best friends don't talk to me at all about what I'm going through.  I dont really know how to take it. I don't know if it's because they aren't concerned with it, or if they just don't know what to say about it. Some of my other friends ask me about it quite often, but there are two of us going through this in that group. 

I really hope this site and group can help me settle some of the anxiety and impatience about the whole process... I'd love to hear about your stories as we'll.

Miranda

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Registered: 06-29-2011
Wed, 10-09-2013 - 3:35pm
That just seems so unfair that a drunk driver hindered his fertility, and they won't cover it. It's wrong, but who said insurance companies are ethical? So frustrating to deal with, I hope that they will see that it's the right thing to do. It's so hard TTC when you have issues. There are days I just want to hide under a rock. We have unexplained fertility, just taking a break now from using Clomid. It was just getting to be too stressful. I don't have much support IRL either, I'm sure that your girlfriends just don't know what to say. Honestly, I wouldn't have known either before I've gone through this. If you can be open with them, ask them if they are uncomfortable talking about it. All you really need is someone to listen and be there, they don't have to offer any advice. Hugs can also go a long way.
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Registered: 10-04-2013
Tue, 10-15-2013 - 9:02pm

Thanks for your insight Plumlover. It is very frustrating that insurance isn't cooperating, but honestly all insurance, health or auto, should cover some fertility costs. It's not like any of us have a choice in this. I really hope things work out for all of us in some way or another.