IVF success once, do we try it again?

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Registered: 03-07-2005
IVF success once, do we try it again?
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Fri, 06-07-2013 - 3:20pm

We had IVF success in 2009, our dd was born in 2010. She is great and well, she is the main reason I am even thinking about doing this all again. We would love to give her sibling. I told dh repeatedly in the last few years that there was no chance ever ever that I would do IVF again because it just took too much out of me mentally and physically....but now..... I am wondering if I am closing a door that I should leave open?

Are there any grads out there who are thinking of doing this all again and weighing the options?

Should we try for IUI's again? (issue is on DH's side, low swimmer numbers all around). Should we just head straight for IVF? Should we consider a donor? I have not even discussed this with DH, I need to sort out my own thoughts first. I've been wrestling with this in my head for months now -do I try this craziness again? I just don't know what to think now. 

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Registered: 08-26-2008
Mon, 06-10-2013 - 1:04pm

I had my DD in May of 2010 and am now pregnant with #2 after three FET attempts in 2012.  Going through it again I didn't feel as desperate but it was more annoying, if that makes any sense.  For me the IUI cycles felt like a waste so I likely wouldn't go back to those again but it all depends on what you feel in your heart is the best way to go.  Is your MFI so severe a donor would be likely your best chance of success?   Or were you talking egg or embryo donation?  I would make an initial appointment with your RE and get some basic information on what they would recommend.  Once you have all the information you can see if you are up for the circus again =)  

Caryn

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Registered: 03-07-2005
Wed, 07-03-2013 - 12:48pm

Thanks so much for the note Caryn. Congratulations on #2! That is just awesome. I hear ya on the IUI bit - if I do go for the "circus" again (and by the way that comment made me laugh ;)) I would try to skip the IUI's - they felt useless for us too. Yes, the MFI are rough - very low counts, low motility, low morphology - the all the possible counts in that dept. are low. DH has varicoceles - he had surgery for it back in 2008 - but didn't help. We knew it was a long shot, I actually didn't even want him to do the surgery - but he wanted to try everything we could. Anyway, we either do IVF with ICSI or donor. I am thinking that an exploratory appt. with the RE would be a good idea - I am just not yet convinced that I even want to take that first initial step. But I did like the docs at the RE's office and well, we did get pregnant the first time. I was pretty freaked out about the shots, the drugs, the chance of hyperstimulation - did you have those fears the first time? Was the fear and anxiety less the second time?