Any older women TTC with IVF?

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Any older women TTC with IVF?
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Fri, 03-25-2011 - 2:15am

I'm doing IVF for the first time within the month and I haven't seen many other geriatric women on this site (but maybe I havent looked carefully enough). I'm 39 and DH is 43. We've been TTC for about a year, and our infertility is pretty much unexplained except for the fact that we're OLD, reproductively speaking.

Me - 39, DH - 43, TTC x 1 year 1st IUI 2/16/11 with clomid & trigger shot, BFN. Skipping ahead to IVF b/c paying out of pocket & other concerns 1st IVF cycle Mar-April, 2011 (ER expected week of 4/11, ET planned 3 days later...)

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Fri, 03-25-2011 - 9:42am
DH and I are both 42. We started TTC last May. We found out I have endometriosis so I had a surgery to have an endo removed. We tried 2 IUIs 4 follies each time but decided those were a waste of time (which is limited as you know). I tried a lupron flare and got zero follies. I was blindsided and so sad! Doc said maybe I was oversupressed by the BCP. This time I'll be doing EPP and antagonist protocol. We'll see. That's what I get for waiting 'til 40+ but it's all OK. It's not hopeless. DE is still an option and so is adoption. But we're taking it one step at a time. No sad (today anyway). keep the faith. good luck to you!!

also fyi I take melatonin, coq10, synthroid, folbic, royal jelly, asprin, prenat vit, and DHEA. I hope it will be my recipe for success.

About me: A pixie in the city, 41, TTC#1 since May 2010, married 18 years.


Diagnosed with/surgically removed endometrioma Aug 2010. Sept IUI #1=BFN. Nov IUI #2=BFN. Uterine polyp removed Jan. 2011. Jan 2011 IVF cancelled. No response. 2nd

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Sat, 03-26-2011 - 12:17am
Hey Pixie! I'm really glad to hear from you, and to feel less alone. I actually decided against IUI for similar reasons... some clinics wont even bother with IUIs for women after age 40.

I know DE is an option if needed, it's just hard to work my head around at this point. But I will def consider it if it comes to that, no question.

EPP sounds like a really good plan, and it's especially nice since it can improve egg quality, something we can use every bit of at our age. One day, someone will discover how to reverse the age process for ova, and they will become filthy, stinking rich.

I wish I had been in a position to start TTC earlier in life, i really do, but I just wasnt for many reasons. I'm glad I didnt too, because, well for one thing, i wouldnt be with my wonderful DH now had i started earlier. sometimes your choice are made for you.

I'm going to start with the melatonin tonight, great tip. lots of luck back atcha!
Me - 39, DH - 43, TTC x 1 year 1st IUI 2/16/11 with clomid & trigger shot, BFN. Skipping ahead to IVF b/c paying out of pocket & other concerns 1st IVF cycle Mar-April, 2011 (ER expected week of 4/11, ET planned 3 days later...)
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Sat, 03-26-2011 - 12:25am

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Me - 39, DH - 43, TTC x 1 year 1st IUI 2/16/11 with clomid & trigger shot, BFN. Skipping ahead to IVF b/c paying out of pocket & other concerns 1st IVF cycle Mar-April, 2011 (ER expected week of 4/11, ET planned 3 days later...)
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Sat, 03-26-2011 - 3:06pm

Welcome to the board.

----"Never give up on something that you can't stop thinking about every second of every day."----

Chris 

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Sat, 03-26-2011 - 4:37pm
hey, good to hear from you! it's very exciting to see the progress you're making with the DE. I have a close girlfriend who, after 4 failed IVF cycles, went with a DE and now has a beautiful baby girl. And they have other frozen embryos from the same initial fertilization, so they are hoping to do another one in the future. BTW, she's 45.

while i hope it works for me to use my own eggs, in reading a lot of people's experiences recently, it doesnt look like too many older women are having much success with any treatments using their own eggs. maybe i'm looking at the info with a bias, and I wish I could see more positive results, but I just havent. So a DE cycle could very well be in my future. still, i havent given up yet either.

keep posting about your progress, i'd love to hear.
Me - 39, DH - 43, TTC x 1 year 1st IUI 2/16/11 with clomid & trigger shot, BFN. Skipping ahead to IVF b/c paying out of pocket & other concerns 1st IVF cycle Mar-April, 2011 (ER expected week of 4/11, ET planned 3 days later...)
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Sun, 03-27-2011 - 1:58pm

I'm here and you are not alone!!! I'm 41 and DH and I have been trying for over a year... We found each other late in life and got married in Nov '09 - decided we wanted to try for kids and see what happened - no pressure and if it worked, great, if it didn't then it wasn't meant to be. Well we got pg first month off BCP things seemed great, 12 weeks in I lost the baby. Missed m/c - the testing showed the baby was fine, dr didn't think I would have issues, we'll a year a month since my m/c I'm still here trying. I did 4 IUI's with no success and just did my first IVF in February - got a BFP, but my betas fell and AF showed 5 days later. We went to the RE and bascially said if we were to do another IVF, we'd probably have the same type of result with very few eggs ( only have three at retrieval and only one fertilized) and I honestly don't want to put myself and my body through that again for only one egg, when we don't know what my quality is (I have a high FSH so my ovarian reserve is low and there's not telling if I have any "good" ones left). We too are paying out of pocket so after

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Sun, 03-27-2011 - 7:03pm
Thanks Ann, how sweet! BTW, I'm Hillary, forgot to include that. I'm also thinking about going out of state if this one doesnt work, since there are clinics not too far away with lots better stats for women my age, and given how much i'm already spending in this process, another $300-500 aint gonna make a difference. my head is just filled with thoughts and ideas. it's pretty overwhelming actually. I'm just glad I'm not alone. :)
Me - 39, DH - 43, TTC x 1 year 1st IUI 2/16/11 with clomid & trigger shot, BFN. Skipping ahead to IVF b/c paying out of pocket & other concerns 1st IVF cycle Mar-April, 2011 (ER expected week of 4/11, ET planned 3 days later...)
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Mon, 05-09-2011 - 11:32am

You are definately not alone.

Me (42) DH (52)
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Mon, 05-09-2011 - 7:22pm

IVF#1 March 2010 GonalF, Cetrotide, Menopur.
23 follicles 19 eggs 13 mature 7 fertilized 2 blasts none to freeze. No Pregnancy.
IVF#2 July 2010 Lupron Gonal F Menopur
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Wed, 05-11-2011 - 7:45pm
Hi there-

I wanted to give you hope as I was given hope on this same board 2 years ago when going through IVF at age 40. It can work and a geriatric age. I didn't even stimulate that well and only had 2 mature follicles but both were good eggs, fertilized and we went onto transfer them both. One took and we have a 2 year old son. Now I'm trying to conceive #2 so we'll see how that goes at age 43.

Good luck with everything. Try to stay as relaxed as you can. I didn't move off the couch for 2 days after my egg transfer.

Regards,

Michelle P. (Lulubrit)

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