First IVF try failed :(

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First IVF try failed :(
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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 8:30am

Hi -

first IVF failed, trying again...
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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 10:25am

Keep the faith....you are so young and better things ARE ahead for you!! In YOUR case...because you don;t seem to yield a HIGH number of eggs and your reserve is low...I MAY ask your RE (Dr.)....to consider assited hatching before they transfer your embies. I know I am WAY older than you...but we have used assisted hatching each time and got BFP!

Also...did you take Medrol or Prednisone before your transfer? Steroids help with implantation. Please talk to your RE about other patients your age with similar issues.....there may be other protocols you could follow.

Even though you are younger...have you and DH considered...or talked about using Donor eggs? The egg quality and quantity would be MUCH higher, and you would likly have embies to freeze...so FET's (Frozen Transfers) would be possible..versus attempting IVF too many times. Keep an open mind...... After having Babies with MY eggs....we are now in a cycle with Donor eggs...because I no longer TRUST my eggs. Our last IVF...we got 17 eggs.....got PG...but had a miscarriage. The rest of the eggs...15 of them...arrested. So I SUSPECTED it was a bad batch of eggs. We can't keep spending THIS KIND OF money if my eggs don;t want to "play nice".....

Good luck and Join the December Group!! I am in that group *december cyclers)........ We can support you and be here for you whenever y need!

Lindsay

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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 10:56am
I too was dealing with a husband with a demanding job, I don't have low reserve but rather eggs of questionable quality. My first cycle failed, my second was successful even though I was convinced it wouldn't work, a FET failed, and my third was successful. One failure rarely guarantees continued failures. As PP mentioned there are a number of ways to approach it, how many eggs total did they retrieve? what type of fertilization rate was there? Have you had a follow up consult with your RE, what do they suggest? Sometimes a slight change in your meds is all that is needed to work wonders.
Sarah, 25 *IVF*First Cycle Canceled. Second Cycle Chemical Pregnancy. *Third Cycle Successful 3 weeks hospital for Pre-E. E&E born July 2010 via emergency cesarean at 34 weeks. NICU for a month. Now home & healthy. *FET with embies from cycle 3- BFN
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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 11:36am

Happy you found our little group!

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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 12:07pm
This made me feel so incredibly supported - thank you from the bottom of my heart. How do I join December cyclers? I'll look.
Thank you so much, Lindsay! I want to give you a huge hug! XO
~Anna
first IVF failed, trying again...
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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 12:15pm

First of all, I'm not sure how to reply to each of the people who replied to my post! Is this doing it?

Secondly - each of your responses mean so much to me - I somehow feel so full of hope after reading even these few responses! I can't believe how much better this already makes me feel. My husband is a doctor (pulmonology) so he understands the meds and numbers way better than I do, but I was on medrol and something else (gonal-f?) as the stimulants (I think?) - one of the problems was that they found "mature" follicles that didn't end up actually having mature eggs in them. I think it went like this: 9 mature follicles, 5 actually mature eggs in them, 3 got fertilized, only 1 looked good enough to transfer, but barely... and it didn't work.

first IVF failed, trying again...
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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 3:34pm

It sounds like your meds may have been....Menopur WITH gonal-F?? My cycles have all been with Menopur/Follistim (Same as Gonal-F..just different maunfacturer), Then of course the Antagon (Ganirilex) to keep from ovulating....and Ovidrel to trigger ovulation before the retrieval. We have ALWAYS done a 5-day transfer to ensure we are transferring the BEST eggs.

Listen....don;t feel guilty. It does NO Good. In my case my eggs are old and crusty...but my hubbies sperm Dn;t swim straight and are incapable of penetrating an egg. So we are both at fault. But..who cares...then end result benefits BOTH of you..... and so it IS both of your issue.

The first IVF...we chaged to Mastercard. That was the triplets (One healthy Baby)... The second IVF was charged to Discover...... Got pregnant but Miscarried at 8 weeks. THIS cycle that I am IN now (December transfer and group...).... Took out a Medical Financing loan. Suffice to say.....I have credit card..ON loan babies. And when we get out tax returns...we pay off the loans/Cards. It isn't ideal......or easy. But WORTH it. Even if it doesn;t succeed, We are PAYING for peace of mind...that we tried everythng and have no regrets!!

Although I am starting to understand what a needle addicted Crack Ho feels like...... I don't have track marks in my gut or butt!! My name is Lindsay...."I'm addicted to IVF. It has been 2.5 years since I last tried life without IVF..... and it's a bumpy ride...but WORTH the price of admission so far!

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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 4:46pm
Anna,

Oh sweetie, I'm sorry you're feeling so much guilt. As Lindsay said though, it does no good...it doesn't help you toward your goal at all. I know it's so hard but you need to try to get the "I'll try my best and it's all I can do" attitude going. After all infertility is a disease...you didn't ask for it or do anything to deserve it.

I know it's hard to ever imagine it working after you've tried so long...but it does. My husband and I were so cynical about it working we signed up for the shared risk program and had pretty much already decided that when we got our 70% back we would pursue adoption or take a trip around the world. I'm happy to tell you now that we never got our 70% back and the $40k we spent having our little girl was the best money we ever spent. I know it sucks to put the money out there when you want to get pregnant like everyone else (for free!) and use the money on trips, houses, cars, or whatever...but I 100% believe that our struggle to become mom's makes us better, more appreciative moms in the end. It's all worth it. Promise.

Happy you found our little group. I know I would have gone stark raving mad without the girlfriends I've made on here.

I'll be stalking in the December group to see how things are going =)

Good luck!
Caryn
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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 8:05pm

Anna:

Here is the link to the december group..... Not much going on there YET...but soon!

http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/IVF-Intros-Chit-Chat-More/December-Cycle/m-p/118382637/message-uid/118382637#U118382637

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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 8:43pm
You make me smile! Thanks. I think we have the same sense of humor! Love it!

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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 9:20pm
Thanks! You are the best - connecting with everyone here has made my day so much better... considering I haven't been able to drink for the last few months, my husband just reminded me to lighten up - time for a blue moon-induced dance party in the kitchen with the puppy! :)
first IVF failed, trying again...