How to get past the BFN blues...

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Registered: 10-13-2010
How to get past the BFN blues...
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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 4:21pm

It has only been two days since we received the news that our IVF cycle didn't work but it seems like EVERYTHING is magnified.

IVF first and only try. Started Sept 24th with Menopur, Follistum and Lupron. HCG shot Oct 2nd retrieval Oct 4th. Transfer of 3 eggs (grade 3) on Oct 7th. Pregnancy test October 18th!
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Thu, 10-21-2010 - 1:02pm

Thank you Underthesky.

We are not sure about trying again...age is a huge factor for us.

IVF first and only try. Started Sept 24th with Menopur, Follistum and Lupron. HCG shot Oct 2nd retrieval Oct 4th. Transfer of 3 eggs (grade 3) on Oct 7th. Pregnancy test October 18th!
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Registered: 06-05-2010
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 11:05am
I hope you both will be able to try at least once more. That's actually one of the harder aspects of the IF journey, as if the whole thing isn't hard enough...knowing when to say, "ok we've done all we can do, it doesn't seem like this will work for us, let's figure out howvto move on.". But, there's so many variables to that...how many treatments you can afford, the physical and emotional tolls it takes, your age, how many treatments you've tried and failed, and on and on. To me though, it's a little bit like winning the lottery, you can't win if you don't play! :). But, I know, it's just not meant to be for everybody. I'm scheduled for my first ivf cycle, and I'm already wondering, how many of these can I really do?? Right now, I don't know the answer to that, but I like having the hope that maybe the next one will be the one, you know?? I swear, if I could somehow churn out babies, I'd give all IF gals one...at least that might help us take our minds off trying so hard to have our own! :)
KayLa (36)... so many fertility issues betweeen DH and I. Diagnosed with Hashimoto's.
TTC naturally since June 2009
IVF #1 November 2010...BFP....early M/C
FET #1 April 2011...BFP...beta 10, 29, 460.
Heartbeat seen via u/s.
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Thu, 10-21-2010 - 8:34am

Janie:Thank you..that did help.

IVF first and only try. Started Sept 24th with Menopur, Follistum and Lupron. HCG shot Oct 2nd retrieval Oct 4th. Transfer of 3 eggs (grade 3) on Oct 7th. Pregnancy test October 18th!
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Registered: 11-14-2008
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 6:14pm

All I can say is YES!!! it will get easier but that honestly depends on you. First allow yourself to be sad, angry and all of those other emotions in between. Treat this as a loss because it is. You have every right to be upset and no matter anyone says, it still hurts.

IVF#1 March 2010 GonalF, Cetrotide, Menopur.
23 follicles 19 eggs 13 mature 7 fertilized 2 blasts none to freeze. No Pregnancy.
IVF#2 July 2010 Lupron Gonal F Menopur
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Registered: 06-30-2005
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 5:22pm

I am SO sorry. I have been looking for your post and I had a feeling it was bad news since I didn't see anything. I totally understand how you feel and there is no magic bullet to make it go away. It is so disappointing and frustrating that it seems like everyone else has babies or can have them whenever they decide they want one and a lot of them don't even deserve to have children but they do. I think time is the only thing that will heal your heart and I hope that happens quickly.

I am truly sorry and I send you great big Hugs.

Carolyn

Too many IUI’s, IVF’s and failed attempts to count.

TTC #1 since 2005