I'm out....

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I'm out....
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Thu, 05-05-2011 - 7:48pm

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So I was initially suposed to do ivf in April but for a number of reasons I kept delaying it and now my dh and I have decided to NEVER do ivf again. Yes I understand how huge of a decision it is and I know many ppl will never understand my reason. For the longest while I have been feeling like God is knocking on the door of my heart to be let back in and I have decided to let him back in. Part of fully letting him in is to trust him completely and just have absolute faith in him. So

Me - (Amanda 27) My dh-- 26 We have been ttc # 1 for 3yrs 5mths My dh has severe oligospermia, Ivf with icsi is our only option. Ivf # 1--- failed Ivf # 2--- failed Ivf # 3-- hopefully in March 2013 at a new clinic!

 

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Mon, 05-09-2011 - 6:17pm

Thanks for your advice ladies I knew most of you would understand my decision. I just wanted to remind you all that I have nothing against ivf, remember I did it last year. I just feel so strongly about not going down that road again. I actually know someone who had the same problem as my dh and he was healed, I know most ppl cannot comprehend how powerful God is but he can do the impossible. Can you imagine not having to worry about money etc for ivf? I think the best thing that would come out of it is we can be a normal couple and have a many kids as we desire whenever we want, if he is healed. I know this is probably sound absurd to you but it as plain as day to me. I pray that all of you get your ivf miracles :p

Me - (Amanda 27) My dh-- 26 We have been ttc # 1 for 3yrs 5mths My dh has severe oligospermia, Ivf with icsi is our only option. Ivf # 1--- failed Ivf # 2--- failed Ivf # 3-- hopefully in March 2013 at a new clinic!

 

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Sat, 05-07-2011 - 10:27am

IVF and other fertility treatments were created to combat infertility. I dont believe Infertility was created by Satan but since you do, IVF might be a tool GOD

IVF#1 March 2010 GonalF, Cetrotide, Menopur.
23 follicles 19 eggs 13 mature 7 fertilized 2 blasts none to freeze. No Pregnancy.
IVF#2 July 2010 Lupron Gonal F Menopur
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Sat, 05-07-2011 - 10:21am

Amanda,

I believe in GOD and am a extremely faithful person. God helps those who help themselves. If you want a miracle you need to help yourself first. Pray, be faithful but most of all take action. Anyone can pray and ask for something

IVF#1 March 2010 GonalF, Cetrotide, Menopur.
23 follicles 19 eggs 13 mature 7 fertilized 2 blasts none to freeze. No Pregnancy.
IVF#2 July 2010 Lupron Gonal F Menopur
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Fri, 05-06-2011 - 1:44pm

I wish you and your DH the very best. May God bless you both in what ever way is intended for your lives. Continue to have faith and you will find peace and happiness.

 

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Fri, 05-06-2011 - 11:21am
I respect your decision as well....if your heart is saying this isn't the right road for you, then definitely follow that sign and trust in your instinct. You and your DH are very young and have a lot of time to decide which path is best and yes, to continue to try naturally as well. I definitely believe that you have a chance to get PG naturally on your own.

But, I also hope you know that if your DH ISN'T healed and it does not happen for you naturally, that it isn't a matter of how much faith you have or don't have. That is a lot on your shoulders....to put all of the hope that DH will be healed on your ability to be faithful. Of course trust in what your heart tells you to do, but please don't be too hard on yourself if things don't happen for you in this way. Perhaps God is leading you on another path entirely such as adoption or fostering? Like I said, you have a lot of time to pray on it and see where things lead. Good luck and take care!

 

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Fri, 05-06-2011 - 10:57am
Yes I agree with you 100% I know that he helped humanity to invent ivf and yes I am happy for anyone who recieves these miracle babies through ivf. I support it but for me I think it is the right thing to do. I just hope and pray that I can have enough faith so that my dh could be healed.
I called my pastor and he told me about his brother who had similiar problems to my dh and his brother (who is deceased now, who I knew) had three children because he had so much faith in God. So this reassured me that this is the right decision for me.

Amanda

Me - (Amanda 27) My dh-- 26 We have been ttc # 1 for 3yrs 5mths My dh has severe oligospermia, Ivf with icsi is our only option. Ivf # 1--- failed Ivf # 2--- failed Ivf # 3-- hopefully in March 2013 at a new clinic!

 

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Fri, 05-06-2011 - 9:10am

I respect your decision and believe it or not, understand it on some level... But, couldn't it be that God invented (or helped humanity invent) IVF to combat infertility whether or not it was from Satan? I feel blessed that IVF exists, and I truly believe that maybe it fell into our laps because it was meant to. Just saying... I hope you find peace and an eventual BFP on your journey. Best of luck.

About me: Sheri 35, DH 42, happily married 16 years, 3 furbabies TTC#1 since forever, MFI (complications from Type 1 Diabetes) December, February IUIs cancelled. One thing after another. March IVF stopped for uterine polyps (my turn to have something