Keeping your Sanity. Guarded Optimism

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Keeping your Sanity. Guarded Optimism
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Sat, 10-09-2010 - 9:31pm

I heard a term in a book I read for IVf coined "Guarded Optimism".

IVF#1 March 2010 GonalF, Cetrotide, Menopur.
23 follicles 19 eggs 13 mature 7 fertilized 2 blasts none to freeze. No Pregnancy.
IVF#2 July 2010 Lupron Gonal F Menopur

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Registered: 10-06-2008
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 1:32pm

Once again I have to agree.

After 3 painful ivf's (emotionally) I did finally get my BFP. The times I got a BFN this board could be both wonderful and heart wrenching at the same time. When some women got BFP's most days it would encourage me but there we defiantly days that I couldn't handle the details of someone else's BFP. I was happy for them but sad for me. That's why when I became pregnant I didn't post much anymore. I didn't want to hurt anyone. I love to share my story for inspiration but when I feel its appropriate.

 

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Tue, 10-26-2010 - 11:25am

Personally, when I

IVF#1 March 2010 GonalF, Cetrotide, Menopur.
23 follicles 19 eggs 13 mature 7 fertilized 2 blasts none to freeze. No Pregnancy.
IVF#2 July 2010 Lupron Gonal F Menopur
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Mon, 10-25-2010 - 10:45pm

I agree with you on some level that you shouldnt be flaunting your successes while others are going through ivf failure. But on the other hand,

Brooke (34) DH (42)

ttc for #1

off bc since Aug 2005

me, hostile cm due to leep procedure in Aug 2005

dh, perfect
mc at 6 weeks May 17 2009
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Mon, 10-25-2010 - 2:10pm

Ya there is pretty much no way around feeling the way you do. You want to have fun at the shower but then your own sadness kicks in. So many triggers. Don't you love it when your fertility becomes open conversation. We have been together for about 12 years and when you are together for that long it kind of brings a whole new dimension to things.

btw that is a good idea for a post, Shower Survival Tips Getting Past the Baby Bingo Safely! I think I will write that one tonight :-} lol

IVF#1 March 2010 GonalF, Cetrotide, Menopur.
23 follicles 19 eggs 13 mature 7 fertilized 2 blasts none to freeze. No Pregnancy.
IVF#2 July 2010 Lupron Gonal F Menopur
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Mon, 10-25-2010 - 12:28pm

Had to go to a baby shower on Sat.

----"Never give up on something that you can't stop thinking about every second of every day."----

Chris 

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Mon, 10-25-2010 - 9:54am

Your welcome, I just try to post how I feel without holding back to much. :-]

IVF#1 March 2010 GonalF, Cetrotide, Menopur.
23 follicles 19 eggs 13 mature 7 fertilized 2 blasts none to freeze. No Pregnancy.
IVF#2 July 2010 Lupron Gonal F Menopur
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Registered: 05-16-2009
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 9:02pm

Thanks for asking Chris,

  • They are doing okay now, it was a bit difficult at first.
  • Sarah, 25 *IVF*First Cycle Canceled. Second Cycle Chemical Pregnancy. *Third Cycle Successful 3 weeks hospital for Pre-E. E&E born July 2010 via emergency cesarean at 34 weeks. NICU for a month. Now home & healthy. *FET with embies from cycle 3- BFN
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    Tue, 10-12-2010 - 8:36pm

    Thank You for posting this thread. As a 3 time IVFer I couldn't have said it any better. Everything you have wrote I have thought. I am sure your words will help someone and there are a lot of us who feel the same way so thank you.

     

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    Mon, 10-11-2010 - 2:32pm

    I love that one "so and so had this, and they got pregnant". I know most of them mean well, but there is absolutely no logic behind that that thought.

    IVF#1 March 2010 GonalF, Cetrotide, Menopur.
    23 follicles 19 eggs 13 mature 7 fertilized 2 blasts none to freeze. No Pregnancy.
    IVF#2 July 2010 Lupron Gonal F Menopur
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    Mon, 10-11-2010 - 10:01am
    How are your twins doing? You kind of just dropped off the board and I wondered how things were going. Were they boys/girls.

    ----"Never give up on something that you can't stop thinking about every second of every day."----

    Chris 

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