Nervous Newbie

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Registered: 07-20-2008
Nervous Newbie
Tue, 05-17-2011 - 9:08pm

Hi I am new here, hubby and I just had our consult for IVF today after discussion and testing for insemination. We have been trying to conceive for 9 years now off and on with no luck on our own. In 2002 I had a miscarriage and a tubal pregnancy and have not been able to conceive since.

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Tue, 05-17-2011 - 9:22pm

HI there, just wanted to say hello and welcome you to the Boards.


Me, 38, dh, 35

3 IUI's - BFN

IVF #1 - Jan '08 - BFP - beautiful baby boy born 10/10/08

IVF cycle #2 - TTC

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Registered: 06-22-2010
Tue, 05-17-2011 - 9:56pm
Welcome to the boards! You have come to the right place for support...The women here are amazing, always willing to lend a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or words of advice and wisdom.

Chris is right...We have all experienced the overwhelming feelings of fear, anxiety, and worry that come along with this journey, and you are most certainly not the first one to break down in the doctor's office. In fact, as I have cried several times in my RE's office, the doctor has knowingly handed me a box of tissues and told me that he has "stock in tissues, so feel free to use as many as needed." So, cry away, girl...Let it out.

But also remember to stay as positive as you possibly can. I truly believe that the power of positivity helped me to achieve my BFP in my IVF cycle. I just keep meditating and visualizing myself becoming pregnant, and here I am!

I wish you all the best on your journey. Keep us updated on your progress!

Kelly :)
Kelly (31) DH (32) TTC Since June 2009 August 2007 - Myomectomy - removed large fibroid on back of uterus January 2010 - HSG reveals "possible" blocked left tube March 2010 - First RE visit (PCOS secondary to CAH diagnosed) April 2010 - October 2010
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Registered: 12-07-2008
Wed, 05-18-2011 - 9:01am

You are in the right place! I was a neurotic mess! Still am! Insurance coverage is a great, positive thing too! That is something to feel really lucky/blessed about. I already spent out-of-pocket $33,000! IVF is a difficult process, and there is worry and fear at every little bump in the road, but there is the greatest joy at the end of the journey(s). Always feel free to vent on this board or ask questions or share worries or concerns or great joy and success. Everyone here understands. :smileywink:

About me: Sheri 35, DH 42, happily married 16 years, 3 furbabies TTC#1 since forever, MFI (complications from Type 1 Diabetes) December, February IUIs cancelled. One thing after another. March IVF stopped for uterine polyps (my turn to have something
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Registered: 06-15-2011
Thu, 06-30-2011 - 10:01am

I understand EXACTLY how you feel! It's every single emotion all at the same time- very overwhelming! You're a little bit farther along than I am, I haven't gone for the consult yet because we're waiting for some test results first (next week- cross your fingers for me!) By starting the process, you're kind of putting yourself out there, exposing to the world your deepest desire (to have a baby) and facing the terrifying chance that you might not be able to do it.

As everyone else said, the best thing you can do is stay positive, look on the bright side and keep hoping! Luckily this is pretty easy for me as I have 2 friends pregnant from IVF right now and another who is probably rocking her IVF baby as we speak and my DH is very supportive and positive too. These boards are a good place to communicate with others who are going through the same thing and many have succeeded!

Best of luck to you in your journey!