My DH and I were actually referred directly to IVF b/c of severe male factor issues. It was a pretty big shock for us too. We asked about doing less aggressive treatment (particularly b/c of cost) and it was not an option for us as we also have to have ICSI done.
We took sometime to decide if this was the right route for us and if we really wanted to do something so invasive right off the bat, and we decided the ultimate goal is a healthy baby so we are trying our first round of IVF in August!
Good luck to you, its never an easy decision.
I know it must have been so hard to hear that you should go right to IVF.
Me, 38, dh, 35
3 IUI's - BFN
IVF #1 - Jan '08 - BFP - beautiful baby boy born 10/10/08
IVF cycle #2 - TTC
I went straight to IVF because of male factor issues. iui's wont work if its so severe ICSI is needed. It worked finally on the 3rd try. In our case going straight to IVF was the only way. The only thing I wished we would have done first was have my husband have the varicocele operation. We really feel it made all the difference on the 3rd IVF. His count may not have improved but the quality sure did.
Me - (Amanda 27) My dh-- 26 We have been ttc # 1 for 3yrs 5mths My dh has severe oligospermia, Ivf with icsi is our only option. Ivf # 1--- failed Ivf # 2--- failed Ivf # 3-- hopefully in March 2013 at a new clinic!