New here, Questions about IVF

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Registered: 07-12-2003
New here, Questions about IVF
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 11:36am
Hello everyone,

I am new to this board, but not new the boards in general. I found out that I will need to have IVF to have children. I was upset at first, but have made peace with it. We are looking at going throgh with this procedure in Feb 2004. I was just wondering if you guys could tell me what to expect and things like that. I'm trying to be realistic in understanding that it may not happen the first time. (but I sure hope it does) I was pregnant before, had a m/c and was on clomid for 8 months after my m/c had one cycle of clomid when I got pregnant. I was also diagnosed with PCOS. Well, I want to thank everyone in advance for all the info you can give me.

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Registered: 08-08-2003
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 12:44pm
Hi! This will be long but I hope it is informative for you.

I'm sorry for your m/c.

I don't have experience with PCOS but I did go through IVF/ICSI back in October of 2001 because of blocked tubes. My first attempt and I was lucky that it was successful. My daughter just turned 1.

My advice is to find a doctor that you like, can talk to and doesn't rush you out the door.

Learn patience, you will be going through alot of waiting with respect to test results.

Enjoy roller coasters as IF is a big roller coaster, it has it's ups, downs, and twists and turns.

Make friends with the nurses, receptionist and all other staff at your doctors office, you will be dealing with them often.

If your unsure of anything, (how to mix meds and also how to store them, when/where/how to administer the meds, follicle size and quality, anything at all, ASK YOUR DOCTOR.

IMPORTANT: Ask your doctor if he will be doing the actual retrieval and transfer. Usually they have a team. In my case, I went to this clinic because the head of the IVF team. When I got there, they tried to move me to this other woman whom I didn't like, she didn't have any bedside manner, so I spoke with the head doctor and told him that the reason I'm here is because of HIM, not her and that she made me uncomfortable. So, after that, I only saw him for checkups. He did the transfer and another doctor (they had a team of 3) did the retrieval. Ask to meet with all the doctors if there is a possibility that they will do any procedures on you. You don't want to meet them for the first time the morning of the retrieval/transfer.

Get your husband involved in some way, my dh did my shots since I was the one getting them, he felt he could help by giving them. But, he says to this day that each one was as difficult as the first since he was stabbing me with a needle. (you do get used to them after a while so don't fret about that).

That's really all I can think of right now so I wish you good luck and baby dust.

P.S. DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT CAVE IN AND DO A HPT BEFORE YOUR BETA. Easier said than done but............................................


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Registered: 08-03-2003
Sun, 08-10-2003 - 12:44pm
MEDITATE, RELAx is the best advice I can give when going through IVF the first time around. My first IVF attempt failed but I was a basketcase prior, through and after.

The second time around I was more focused on positive thoughts, I prayed, and Meditated and it worked....

Unfortunately the baby died in utero at 11 weeks...But just had the third attempt in June 03 and I am happy to say that I am now 13w3d pg with first baby. THis baby is doing really well, no problems so far....and I have graduated from my fertility clinic with no need to see the maternal medicine doctor (*not sure what that would be for but anyway).

Read what you can, Ask as many questions you can or want no matter how dumb you think they may be.

Good luck to you...IVF is the only way for us too...I do not want to go through it again but if we do decide to have a second (I hope so, and if so we have multiples, we wanted multiples this time but one baby is fine) then we may have to do IVF again.

Good luck doll!!

Sandra Edd 2/12