Not sure about this friend....

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Registered: 06-14-2005
Not sure about this friend....
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 11:40am

Maddie has this little girl she plays with who lives over by my mom, they only play when Maddie is over there visiting. This little girl is 8 years old, Maddie is 6. I don't know why, and I can't quite put my finger on it, but something about this little girl feels "wrong" or "off" and my mom says the same thing. She is very sneaky acting, when she is playing with Maddie she wants to close the door of whatever room they are in, which I strictly forbid, so now she is constantly looking to see where me and my mom are in relation to her and Maddie.

I feel bad for this kid, because her parents pay her no attention and apparently she makes the rounds of the neighborhood just going house to house "visiting" people, but I guess a lot of the neighbors do not like her, but like me no one can put it into words what the problem is. She actually goes to my mom's house nearly every day, even if we are not there and hangs out with my mom, she will sneak food from my mom's kitchen without asking. Plus when she plays with Maddie she's very bossy, telling Maddie she's "in charge" and the last time she told Maddie she couldn't play on the swingset - even though it is Maddie's - and that only she (this girl) can play on it.

It's gotten to the point where we sort of "hide out" when we're over there, hoping she won't come down! But she will literally look in all the windows to see if we are there. It's a very awkward situation, I feel bad having such negative feelings about a child but at the same time I can't ignore my gut feeling that this isn't the kind of playmate for my daughter. I told my mom I think she is ultimately going to have to talk to the parents or something, because I can see this progressing into free babysitting or something, which my mom is in no shape to handle.

Has anyone else ever had a "bad" feeling about a friend and how do you handle it?? Maddie is kind of so so about her, she longs for someone to play with but then she always talks about how mean this girl is to her.

Appreciate your input!



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Registered: 09-14-2006
Sun, 10-12-2008 - 3:05pm

I have the same thing in my neighborhood.

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Registered: 08-26-2007
Mon, 10-13-2008 - 8:36pm

We have it too.