Newbie can i join please?

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Registered: 04-09-2010
Newbie can i join please?
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Mon, 08-29-2011 - 7:59am

Hi there

Would you mind if i joined? I am married with two lovely children and we have been ttc baby no 3 for over two years. We conceived our two children straight away no issues and we also sadly suffered a mmc between having our children.

I had an emergency c

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Registered: 07-24-2008
Mon, 08-29-2011 - 8:46am
Welcome Claire! My name is Lisa and I have three beautiful boys. Dh and I have been ttc for 18 months and I can completely relate. I have had three Csx and had an HSG in may which showed a completely blocked left side. My dr told me that there is still a definite chance of conceiving on the unblocked side so our chances have been automatically cut in half to every other month. I am waiting to be referred to a fertility clinic where they are going to assess me for a laparoscopy to unblock my tube. I know just what you mean about the pain and the need. I have tried so hard to stop wanting and just be happy with what I have but dh and I have always said we wanted four children and some days I feel very ripped off that my 2yo may be my last child whether we wanted that or not...maybe if I had KNOWN that was the last time I would see a child learn to crawl or say a word I would have prepared myself, and not feel like I was robbed of those experiences, KWIM?
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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-09-2010
Mon, 08-29-2011 - 8:59am

Hi Lisa

Thankyou for your reply. Sorry to hear that you are having a hard time as well :-( Yes i totally kwym. I masively took my last pg for granted, never thought for one minute we would struggle to conceive again after falling straight away without our other children.

Its good to know that they are going to try and treat your blockage l really hope it all works out for you. I have a feeling it will be a lost cause for me.

So many of my friends have had babies since we started ttc and whilst im happy for them its heartbreaking because i just want it to be us again. My bf will be ttc her second soon and l just know she will fall straight away. She knows what im going through so i will feel even more vulnerable iykwim?

What should i expect with the hsg? Are you in the US?xx

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2008
Mon, 08-29-2011 - 8:30pm

Thanks, Claire, I am in Canada....

I know just what you mean about people getting pg around you.

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Registered: 05-11-1999
Mon, 08-29-2011 - 11:36pm
Hi Claire and Welcome! So glad you found us, but hope you will be graduating soon. I'm Angie. I have been ttc for a long time now. I have endometriosis and a blood clotting disorder. I have two older children from my first marriage and 9 1/2 year old boy/girl twins that took many years to conceive. We were blessed during our 2nd IVF cycle.

You will do great during the HSG and I will keep everything xx'd that you will get your after hsg bfp!! Looking forward to getting to know you.

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Registered: 04-09-2010
Wed, 08-31-2011 - 4:17am

Lisa l know just what you mean about avoiding other peeps that are pg. As happy as you are for them it just reminds you that you are not pg and its everything you want etc My friend is pg due in a few days and l have totally avoided her, l feel terrible but feel my pain is written all over my face, She doesnt know we are trying for another. We just have to hope that one day it will be our turn again and it will be us cooing over our bumps again etc

I would definitley consider a laproscopy but when we had our meeting with the doctor she wouldnt consider that said too much risk having had a c section already, theatre time etc. Whether or not they would consider this if they found anything with the SALP test i dont know? Im guessing they would have to? Not sure how it works in Cananda but obviously its free health care here. In our area couples without children get three attempts paid for by the NHS. Im guessing the laparoscopy would be as far as it would go for us. I just have

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Registered: 04-09-2010
Wed, 08-31-2011 - 4:19am

Hi Angie

Thankyou for your reply. I hope you are right and the HSG goes ok, i hate any tests!

Are you ttc now? That must have been very hard for you

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Registered: 07-24-2008
Wed, 08-31-2011 - 8:52am
As I posted in another thread, I have found out things about myself that I am not very proud of - had I not had infertility I would never have thought i would ever begrudge a good friend or SIL of their happiness, but sometimes there is a bitterness I just can't control. Our health care is free to a point - all ultrasounds and tests like HSG are free, and I am hoping the laparascopy is covered as well, though since it is in a fertility clinic, I am afraid it wont be. Beyond that, all drugs, procedures and appointments come out of our own pocket. I am very sure that IUI or Ivf are out of our price range.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2008
Wed, 08-31-2011 - 8:56am
As for when my laparoscopy is, I am still waiting on my referral to the clinic (hopefully soon) and then they will assess my situation to see if a lap procedure is too risky or if it will help us. I am almost positive that this is the last resort for us as we have decided not to do IUI or Ivf and my dr said there was no point in drugs with a blockage such as mine. Maybe there are other options I am unaware of, but we will see.
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Registered: 04-09-2010
Wed, 08-31-2011 - 11:43am

I feel the laparoscopy will be the last option for us as well. I know i dont have facts yet that it is blocked tubes etc but everything else seems normal and im sure has to be something like that. My Consultant said no to me when i asked for a laparoscopy but thats before having the hsg etc. Im hoping if something is found they will do something about it. My GP hasnt ruled out that we will get IUI/IVF on the NHS but i think its doubtful after two children and to be honest l havent even considered it.

I hope you get the refferal soon so you know what the plan is. I find the limbo is so much harder to deal with in some ways all of the questions etc

Re those horrible jealous feelings we get l guess thats only natural? Doesnt mean we arent really happy for others deep down. I felt the same when i suffered a mmc between having my 2ds's. One of my friends at work (another building thankfully) was pg at same time and we had been with our first ds's. When i found out l had lost the baby l couldnt even speak to her how awful is that? In fact i couldnt bring myself to see her until l knew l was pg again and all was ok. Thankfully i fell pg the first month of trying, oh to get pg that easily! Anyway l know how consuming it is, awful.

xx

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Registered: 05-11-1999
Wed, 08-31-2011 - 10:28pm
Hi Claire! I have been dealing with thyroid issues for a year and a half now. I am hoping they finally have it under control. I go back on the 14th to find out the results of yet another blood test.

To answer your ?, we are not preventing anything. ;)

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