Why Can't I Get Pregnant Again?

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Why Can't I Get Pregnant Again?
Thu, 09-26-2013 - 1:44pm

That's what one mom is asking in a piece from the New York Times: 

As I opened up to friends and family members, they prodded me with questions: “What do you mean you can’t get pregnant?” and “How old are you again?”

I was 32. Advice poured forth. My husband and I should take a vacation, do yoga, eat chocolate. We should quit trying so hard. We should be patient. Each question and piece of advice implied the same thing: The trouble was only in our heads.

That trouble spilled across my life. I became afraid to exercise, and I put off travel because it might interfere with our attempts to conceive. I slept little as I obsessed over any possible sign of pregnancy. Worst of all, I found myself snapping at Eleanor in frustration. I wasn’t enjoying my beautiful, healthy child.

Read more: http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/07/24/secondary-infertility-i-have-one-child-why-cant-i-get-pregnant-again/?_r=0

She worried about going to an RE, that she was wasting money.  The article goes on to say that your fertility can change with a few years, so past pregnancies don't predict your fertility at the present.

Did you struggle with the decision to seek professional help?