How do I relax?!

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Registered: 08-01-2003
How do I relax?!
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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 5:35pm

I'm technically in the 1WW now, but I know the chances of getting a BFP this month are extremely slim, due to DH having, let's call them "peformance issues" right around O time. Combine that w/ the fact that I'm having a very long cycle (O on CD 23), and I've decided to try to take the relaxed approach next month. But how do I do that?!?!

I'm not going to use OPKs, and we'll BD every 2nd or 3rd day starting on CD12-ish. I thought about not temping either, but now I'm rethinking that. Especially after my long cycle this month I kind of think that if I'm not temping it will just drive me absolutely crazy and make me stress out more than just temping would. Because if I'm not temping I don't know for sure if I've O'd or not, so I won't know if we can stop the constant BDing (lol), or if AF is late I won't know if its because I O'd late again or maybe I'm pg! Ugh.... I think I'll still go ahead and temp.

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Registered: 11-20-2008
Wed, 10-19-2011 - 7:50pm
I defiantely agree with you about temping...I stress more if I don't know what's going on with my body! But I think laying off the other things is a good idea...should help cut out some stress...and maybe will be less stress on DH.
On a side note your chart looks good! Maybe that temp will keep stair-stepping up!
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Registered: 10-02-2011
Wed, 10-19-2011 - 9:38pm
I would temp and not talk to DH as much about everything....they just can't "fix" thing and pressure becomes too much!
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Registered: 03-01-2011
Thu, 10-20-2011 - 11:46am
You could always try temping until O is confirmed? Then you could just check your temp close to when af is expected to see if it's still up or on the decline.

As for bd'ing, what if you led dh to believe you were O'ing earlier, around cd14 or so & then he could get any performance issues out of his sytem & then you could just bd for "fun" when you're actually O'ing? Slightly deceptive, but for a good cause!

Btw I think your chart looks awesome! Fx'd you get a bfp in spite of the bd issues :) Remember, it only takes one!
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Thu, 10-20-2011 - 5:47pm
For me, just doing opk's was much less stressful! My DH also feels pressured around O time and so these last few months I don't mention anything other than when I start AF. I just quietly take my opk on the toilet and wait until I get a smiley... then, have a glass of wine and he thinks I'm ready to go because of that. ;) I mean, it sounds really bad when I type it out like that... but ya know... whatever works!
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Thu, 10-20-2011 - 6:11pm
Amanda, yay it looks like you finally O'd too, just 2 days after me!

Angela, I just may have to do that! lol
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Fri, 10-21-2011 - 8:53pm
Yeah I did finally O....FINALLY!!! But we had awful BD timing.....so I'm not to positive this month. However....your chart looks BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!!! Crossing all my crossables for you this month!
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Sat, 10-22-2011 - 6:05pm
I second all the opinions on your chart. It looks perfect!! FIngers crossed that this month is you month!
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Sat, 10-22-2011 - 11:05pm

Ha, thanks for the encouragement, but I could have the most perfect chart ever and it wouldn't make any difference if there are no swimmers up there :smileytongue:

Considering my O was on a Wednesday and we hadn't managed to do anything productive since the previous Saturday morning, I will be EXTREMELY surprised if I somehow end up with a BFP! I'm expecting AF around Wed this week......

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Registered: 11-20-2008
Sun, 10-23-2011 - 8:19am
That's kind of how I feel about this month too! Our timing was all off because we kept thinking I was gearing up to O and then nothing! Oh well....we always have next month!
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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 1:22pm

Shawna have you tested yet?!?!?!?

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